A reader writes:
Regarding Ms. Steiger's quote, to say that someone who doesn't date short guys is a bigot strikes me as like saying that gay guys are misogynists because we don't date women. It's prima facie absurd.
Me, I tend to like shorter guys.
This reminded me of an interview with Dan Ariely. He suggests that online dating (through the sorting and filtering process) makes people even more superficial:
It turns out, women really care about men's height. I’m 5’9”, if I wanted to be as attractive as somebody who’s 5’10”, right, another inch? I would have to make about $35-40,000 more a year. That’s a lot of money for one inch. At the same time, it turns out that men care a lot about women’s BMI’s. In fact, they want women to be slightly anorexic, at like 18-1/2. And you look at women’s attractiveness, it goes really up at low BMI and really drops below that.
I decided I can't really make use of online dating sites because I'm 5'7" and make about $40,000 a year. I won't make it through most women's search filters. I'm only a little bitter, though. I understand it. I don't hold that against women. I mean, I wish I was a few inches taller, but I don't hold it against women for being more attracted to men who are taller than they are.
Like you said, it's not bigotry; it's attraction. Good luck explaining and/or controlling attraction, right? Besides, while I find women of all heights attractive, I am much more interested in dating women that are at least a bit shorter than I am. Am I victim to some superficial social construct? Maybe. But I certainly don't see the benefit for anyone in having all of us force ourselves into relationships that don't feel great to us simply because we want to be politically correct.
So it is perfectly fine for a white guy to say he won't date black women?
Well, it's perfectly fine for a white guy to say he's not attracted to black women. As it is for a white guy to say he's only attracted to black women. Another:
Related is Louis C.K. on his racist penis. NSFW by any stretch.