[A]s sex researcher Michael Bailey puts it: Not all gay men are sissies, but nearly all sissies are gay men. So it's entirely possible—it seems highly likely to me—that Marcus Bachmann is one of those guys who insists that sexual orientation is a choice because he choose to be straight. Or choose to identify as straight.
Gay people who point out how fruity Bachmann is aren't saying there's something wrong with being fruity, or gay, or with guys who look, speak, walk, or dance the way Bachmann does. A lot of us look, speak, walk, and dance that way. And we don't think there's anything wrong with us for looking, speaking, walking, or dancing that way—I've never met a gay man who objected to Modern Family's Cam. And we certainly don't think there's anything wrong with being gay. But Marcus Bachmann sure does. He thinks there's a whole lot wrong with being gay. When we point out that this same Marcus Bachmann acts like a huge homo—like a messy, married, dishonest, closeted version of Cam—we're hoisting that pansy on his own hateful petard.
Adam Serwer counters:
Not all jokes that work within a community work outside it. So while gays and lesbians might understand that mocking Bachmann as "fruity" isn't a value judgement on gays themselves, homophobes don't.
Groan. Look: as Dan notes, some things just cannot be ignored. When a brutal homophobe sounds and looks like a parody of a big old queen, suppressing that fact becomes close to impossible. I stand by the Corky St Clair comparison. And Corky, remember, self-described as straight. We just never saw his wife (for whom he did most of the personal shopping).