The Straight Male Identity

Dan Savage sympathizes with straight guys:

[H]eterosexual male identity — and in America I don’t want to get too pointy-headed about it, but it’s really this package of negatives. You know, to be a straight guy is not to be a woman and not to be a faggot and so it doesn’t really leave you much room to maneuver. If there’s anything about your interests or personality that can be remotely perceived as feminine or faggoty, you have to kill it or people won’t believe you’re straight or you’ll be tormented — you know, questions for the rest of your life.

Fray's new issue, from where this Savage interview is taken, focuses on Sex & Death; Steve Silberman's account of losing his father is also worth checking out.