[Dan's advice column] could have been just blow jobs and hand jobs and tips on shopping for lubricant. I think it is more likely that people asked about love because for most of us — those who do not live in a popper- and Ecstasy-fueled demimonde of all-night raves, or in the vampire/corset subculture — the most intimate sex questions come up when we are with somebody we care about. For most couples, role-playing or bondage is an activity that comes at month six, or year six, not on the third date.
In other words, savage sex goes with savage love. To combine those two human experiences in one column — that was Dan Savage’s great innovation.