A reader writes:
Thank you for pointing me to Ariel Levy’s account of her baby’s stillbirth. But as I read it, I think it’s important to say it’s a stillbirth, not a miscarriage … a minor change in language, but it better expresses the pain and grief she experience. To say this is not to trivialize miscarriage – which is incredibly painful, and a loss often ignored – but to pick up on the details of her experience. Actually, it’s not even a stillbirth, as the baby was briefly alive. But we don’t have words for that experience. And maybe that matters.
My wife and I have four wonderful kids, but I can still see the image in my mind from the doctor’s office of the blank ultrasound screen where a very small baby used to be.