The Misery Of Miscarriage, Ctd

Andrew Sullivan —  Nov 14 2013 @ 3:41pm

A reader writes:

Thank you for pointing me to Ariel Levy’s account of her baby’s stillbirth.  But as I read it, I think it’s important to say it’s a stillbirth, not a miscarriage … a minor change in language, but it better expresses the pain and grief she experience.  To say this is not to trivialize miscarriage – which is incredibly painful, and a loss often ignored – but to pick up on the details of her experience.  Actually, it’s not even a stillbirth, as the baby was briefly alive.  But we don’t have words for that experience.  And maybe that matters.

Another:

My wife and I have four wonderful kids, but I can still see the image in my mind from the doctor’s office of the blank ultrasound screen where a very small baby used to be.