The Dating Lives Of Porn Stars

Vox talked to some:

Danny Wylde: While in the industry, I’ve only dated people in the industry. My sexual experiences while in the industry with people outside of it often felt like I was a novelty, or something like, “Well, you better be really great in the sack because you fuck for a living.” …

Jesse Flores: I don’t date anyone in the industry. I prefer outside of it only. But being in the industry adds to the struggle. Once I tell the guys I’m in the industry, their creep factor goes into overdrive. They think it’s okay to say or ask whatever, with no respect.

It’s like, “Would you ask that to someone you met at the store or coffee shop?” No! So why is it okay to ask me that just because I do porn?

Michael Lucas: I always went for people who would not have an issue with it. I’ve had four relationships. My second boyfriend’s family never knew what I do. They knew that I was doing business, but not exactly what kind of business. They were older people and there was no point in telling them. But other than that, everybody knows, and everyone is fine. I would never change my job for anybody; that’s ridiculous. It would never be a healthy relationship if you sacrifice something big for another person. I know people that do sacrifice their adult careers for their boyfriends. They always use it as a reminder whenever something goes wrong. They always say, well, I sacrificed my career for you. That’s not healthy. …

Shy Love: My husband and I started dating when I was in porn. I told him, “I’m never going to give up my business for some guy.” He never was forceful, but he said, “I cannot be serious with a girl who’s in front of the camera.” One day I quit. He asked, “Why?” Was I not popular anymore? I said, “I didn’t do it for you.” Next thing you know, I’m engaged, and married, and have kids. You do have to stop performing to have that normal life.