Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

A reader revives the debate over whether killing yourself is selfish: I don’t really understand it. I guess people are motivated by loyalty or empathy to stick up for the deceased.  But if we try to think of any reasonable definition of selfishness, say “putting one’s own needs and desires before those of everyone else,” we have to … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

The long-running thread gets another story: I just read the psychotherapist’s take on the selfishness of suicide and would like to chime in with my own experience. My daughter was 16, and we had been going through several years of wildly uncontrolled behavior on her part. I came home one evening to find she had taken an … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

A reader merges the Leelah Alcorn thread with another popular one: You’re no doubt unsurprised that I disagree with your reader who characterized Leelah’s suicide as “the worst and most selfish way to get satisfaction.” I can imagine far worse and more selfish ways of receiving satisfaction over grievances. In fact, I don’t have to imagine them, … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

by Dish Staff A few more readers share their stories: A close friend – also a funny, intelligent, well-liked guy – killed himself four years ago. One of his (and my) best friends said at his memorial: Bob was one of the smartest people I ever met. He never did anything without thinking all the … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

A reader writes: I’ve been reading the suicide thread and I just don’t understand how suicide is selfish. When torture victims break, we don’t call them selfish. People can be tortured by their brain’s messed-up chemistry as brutally as they can be tortured with stress positions and sensory deprivation. People break. That’s not a character … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing

Jul 17, 2013 @ 8:57am “Suicide, seen as among the most selfish of acts, pushes a button in us that even murder doesn’t,” according to Clancy Martin: When I was in treatment for depression, I found that meeting and talking to other people about suicide was profoundly helpful; I saw what a loss it would have … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

A reader writes: I want to echo what your reader said about his connections tethering him to the world.  I absolutely share the sentiment.  I have an objectively great life, full of privilege, but I feel as if I’m always carrying around a massive dark truth about reality.  At some point in my early 20s, … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing, Ctd

Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing

“Suicide, seen as among the most selfish of acts, pushes a button in us that even murder doesn’t,” according to Clancy Martin: When I was in treatment for depression, I found that meeting and talking to other people about suicide was profoundly helpful; I saw what a loss it would have been had those people succeeded. … Continue reading Suicide Leaves Behind Nothing

Our Failure To Treat Suicidal Thoughts, Ctd

by Chris Bodenner A reader appears adrift: I need help understanding this issue. Put frankly, I don’t know that I buy the imperative that we should be making a thing out of preventing suicide. Loved ones are hurt by suicide. But what else? I am not exactly suicidal, but it’s not at all infrequent for me to be … Continue reading Our Failure To Treat Suicidal Thoughts, Ctd