Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Another reader provides yet another angle: I’ve been reading this thread with fascination, thinking back to events from my own college time. This fits into the category of “men supposedly can’t get raped, plus there’s that grey zone…” We were dorm buddies. She was coming on to me. I didn’t want sex. She did. I said … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Another reader recounts a horrifying experience: I’ve been following this thread closely.  Thank you, as always, for providing a forum for these kinds of conversations.  I’m grateful. I’m an over-educated, professional, heterosexual male, single, no kids.  I’m also a recovering sex addict.  Several years ago I was to meet a woman whom I had met online at a … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

by Dish Staff Several more readers open up: To echo the sentiments of those before me, thank you so much for continuing this discussion. It has been one year since my rape. I have made a conscious decision not to report the incident and I don’t regret that decision for a minute. I was 100% sober … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

by Dish Staff This reader thread, sparked by Danielle Campoamor’s story, is among the most powerful ones we’ve had this year. So far we’ve heard from a convict who was raped in prison, a white coed assaulted by a black basketball star, a young teenager sexually abused by his teacher, a followup from a woman who told us about her rape, and several … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

by Dish Staff Another reader adds his story to the powerful thread: I want to offer a male perspective from someone who has been through something similar, in order to say it’s not just women who have these reactions. As a young teenager I was sexually abused by a teacher/coach, someone who had become like a … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

by Dish Staff The personal thread takes a new direction: Thank you so much for continuing the discussion on rape. My rape story is a little different. I never felt a tremendous weight of shame, but rather anger that some jerk could think it was okay to do that to me. And anger at the ways … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

A reader adds a new angle to the thread: I was convicted in 2001 of embezzling more than a million dollars, for which I served 1-1/2 years in prison. I may come at this from a different angle, being a gay man who was raped in prison, rather than a straight women raped in college. I didn’t report my rapes … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

From the reader who shared in August her story of rape: I’m writing you back on the topic of rape once again, but it’s important and I’m glad you continue to have this conversation and that you are focusing on the real issues, and dissecting them, especially now that the UVA story has muddied the waters … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Several readers open up: You didn’t ask for answers to your question, but I’ll give you one, since McArdle’s doesn’t really do that. You can try to relate, but you can’t put yourself into the mind of someone who has been traumatized by sexual assault. I often reflect on why I didn’t report being raped by … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape? Ctd

Would You Report Your Rape?

Danielle Campoamor shares her own experience: I always thought that if I ever became a victim of sexual assault, I’d say something. I’d be the girl reporting it, sitting on a witness stand and pointing a defiant finger, just like the actresses on SVU. There wouldn’t be a second thought or a deliberate pause; I’d … Continue reading Would You Report Your Rape?