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The thread takes another turn: I think one of your readers, when talking about all kinds of distinctions between different kinds of “rape” – inadvertently mentioned something that is a huge distinction between when a female is the aggressor and when the male is the aggressor. He wrote: There is a double standard, or a multiple standard, and one of the key factors is penetration. I think I would have felt differently had there been … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

Readers continue one of our most popular threads of late: While I agree that rape prevention is never the responsibility of those who might have been victimized, the same is true of those who might be victims of false accusations. And that is the all-important flip side of this question. It is difficult to subject the claims … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

Maybe Maryville will be different from Steubenville. Here’s hoping. http://t.co/AlfI5brP9u — Jezebel (@Jezebel) October 23, 2013 A reader keeps the thread going: All of your reader stories are very sad, especially so the men describing life inside abusive relationships. Our culture definitely has difficulty understanding male victims, not just of sexual assault. It’s one of … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

A reader writes: I think one of the things that is being missed by most of the contributors to this thread is that male-on-female rape is rarely about sex.  Typically, it’s an assertion of power on the part of the male, not a desire to get off sexually without seeking the consent of the other.  But … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

A few male readers add the factor of unconsciousness to the thread: I’m reminded of an incident that occurred while I was backpacking in South America in 1995. I was staying at a hostel in Chile with a friend, and went out for the night with a couple of local girls, one of whom lived/stayed at … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

Several readers take issue with the reader in this post update: While it seems clearly wrong to state that you’re an “unbelievable pussy” and it’s not technically “rape” if a woman forces you as a man to have sex without putting a gun to your head, there is a middle ground here.  It’s that while it may have been “against … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

A reader writes: Your efforts to explore this topic are part of what makes your blog so special.  I mean, really, is there anything you won’t discuss? I really must agree that there is a double standard with male rape.  By all accounts, I have been a male victim of heterosexual rape within the context … Continue reading The Rape Double-Standard, Ctd

AR Wear, or Anti-Rape Wear, is a crowdfunded line of undergarments designed to “frustrate an assault effectively.” Amanda Hess snarks, “The ‘AR’ stands for ‘ARe you kidding?’—no, sorry”. Jia Tolentino feels that “to some women, this product could feel tremendously welcome,” but she has reservations: Many parts of the video for AR Wear really grind … Continue reading Could “Anti-Rape” Underwear Really Help?