HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY

A year ago around this time, I wrote this screed against romantic love. It’s been a theme of mine – and formed part of my last book, Love Undetectable. In contrast to the breathlessness of romance, and our absurd expectations of it, I tried to argue that friendship as a form of relationship was actually a superior form of love. I still believe that on the whole, if you count romance as the “falling in love” part of what the Greeks called eros. But at the time, many people told me that romantic love fully understood could be a nobler thing, that it could encompass both friendship and romance, fusing both. I noted the argument, but was a skeptic. It behooves me to say that, a year later, I understand it a little better. No book taught me, of course. Thanks, bro. Miss you.