EMAIL OF THE DAY

“Andrew, re: Lincoln. I think the problem is that heterosexuals still don’t understand that “gay” isn’t only about sex. They think of homosexuals as defective straight people with uncontrollable sexual urges, and I guess a flair for drama. They don’t understand our emotional orientation towards members of our own sex. They can’t identify with this, or else they are scared of it (I’m not sure which). This is the source of the whole problem, I think.” I tend to agree. Of course, many heterosexuals have begun to understand. And, as I’ve said many times, homosexuality is very easy to understand. It is exactly the same as heterosexuality, with the gender reversed. Gays, however, cannot expect straights to understand this all by themselves. It’s up to us to explain, and keep explaining. One reason I have written sometimes painful accounts of my own life is not that I enjoy losing privacy, but that I feel it’s the only way to get people to understand what I’m actually talking about. Straights who don’t understand are not necessarily prejudiced. They’re just under-informed. Gay people should spend the bulk of their efforts in the difficult process of informing. And the most integral part of that informing is coming out.