Grow Up, Honey

Chris Crain defends the Warren selection:

Keep your eyes on the prize, boys. Obama’s campaign to unify the country — which last I checked includes millions of Warren’s fellow travelers — is in the service of an administration whose stated policy positions are the most supportive ever on LGBT civil rights.

Agreed. So let’s see those stated policy positions enacted, shall we? Repeal DOMA, enact federal civil unions, repeal "Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell," and invite as many Christianists to the second inaugural as you want.

With But Not Of Warren

Marc Ambinder’s response to the statement and incident:

Warren’s views might be hurtful to gays; Obama does not think they are harmful.

To which one can only add: well, Obama’s marriage wasn’t just voided by a campaign in which Warren played a part, was it? If that isn’t tangibly harmful to gay people, what is? But the deeper truth is that while Obama does not share Warren’s opposition to any civil recognition for gay couples, he does believe that gay couples belong in a separate but equal institution. To my mind, this is not civil equality – and Obama cannot claim to be a "fierce proponent" of such equality, as he did today, without telling an untruth.

Christianists vs Warren

Gay people aren’t the only ones upset by the choice of Rick Warren to deliver the inaugural invocation. Check out David Brody’s email in-tray. I have to say this makes me more comfortable with the choice. Obama is trying to take us past the culture war to an actual dialogue. Obama is a liberal Christianist – and that has long been obvious. His timing could be better, of course. With the raw memory of Rick Warren’s active push for Proposition 8, it’s understandable that the pick is a little much for many. I get it. It’s hard having worked for twenty years for gay inclusion and having supported Obama with so much energy only to watch someone like Rick Warren get the reward. There are, one might add, no openly gay people in the program. Sometimes it seems as if Obama is tone-deaf on the subject.

But this is also the point, no?

If we are going to endure as a single polity, we have to live and have a dialogue with those who oppose us. Rick Warren is not Pat Robertson. He can be engaged. He does good work in many areas. Better to have him in the dialogue than to return to the arid brutality of the culture war. And better for Obama to include Warren in his inaugural, while working to bring greater equality to gay couples and gay people, than to exclude him and preen in purity. We should judge Obama on whether he delivers the goods.

And one day, perhaps even Rick Warren will celebrate gay people’s inclusion in America as well. But I won’t get my hopes up. I know what he thnks of us, our relationships and our equality. We remain anathema.

Sorry?

The shoe thrower apologizes – to Maliki:

Local TV reporter Muntader al-Zaidi wrote a letter to Mr Maliki asking for forgiveness over his "ugly act", prime minister’s spokesman Yasin Majeed said.

But…

…according to Reuters news agency, one of Mr Zaidi’s brothers expressed scepticism over the merits of the letter. "This information is absolutely not true. This is a lie. Muntader is my brother and I know him very well. He does not apologise," Udai al-Zaidi said. He added: "But if it happened, I tell you it happened under pressure."

Hathos

A few readers have e-mailed to ask what "hathos" is. Here’s my definition:

Hathos is the attraction to something you really can’t stand; it’s the compulsion of revulsion.

Alex Heard coined it:

Hathos (hay’thos) n., pl. double hathos A pleasurable sense of loathing, or a loathing sense of pleasure, aroused by certain schlocky, schmaltzy or just- plain-bad show-business personalities: "Hearing the audience applaud when Dr. Joyce Brothers told Merv Griffin that, aside from being a brilliant comedienne, Charo is a ‘genius on the classical guitar’ filled me with hathos." [American: hate/happy pathos lachrymose (?)] — ha-thot-ic adj.

— "Beyond Hate: The Giddy Thrill of Hathos," The Washington Post, May 17, 1987