A reader writes:
Your chart about most harmful effects of DOMA hits it right on the head. Two friends adopted an adorable boy this summer, and it struck me that their little guy, while loved and cared for as much as any other kid, would lose out were one of his fathers to pass away. Both men make a good living and work for a progressive company (it provides ALL employees with adoption stipend) but one the federal and state level, they might as well be strangers who found a baby on the side of the road. It is terrible. They have been together as long as my wife and I, but my cheesy wedding in Vegas by an Elvis impersonator is somehow more respectful of 'family values' than a committed gay couple. Dammit.Thankfully their families and employer are extremely supportive, it would be nice if their government could get with the program.
Gays now have security in their family life only by the beneficence of others. Under federal law, we still don't exist as human beings in relationships.
The Dish 