A reader writes:
The email from your female reader who identifies as straight but is in her first relationship with a woman reminds me of this scene from Chasing Amy. In it, Holden has just expressed his love for Alyssa, who is a lesbian, and the scene cuts off right before she runs into his arms to consummate their love. Though the two situations are reversed – the straight reader makes an exception for one woman while the gay Alysssa makes an exception for one man – I think they both hold the same insights over the complexity and uniqueness of sexual identity. Perhaps Kagan's is just as, if not more, complex.
The Dish 