Timothy Kincaid recommends "Raising my Rainbow", a blog about "raising a slightly effeminate, possibly gay, totally fabulous son.” From a recent post:
Do you think that it is possible for a homosexual person to not have to come out of the closet. I don’t mean stay closeted for always and ever. I mean never even enter the closet. For instance, I’ve asked my oldest son if he thinks anybody in his class is cute. I’m careful how I phrase it. I don’t ask if he thinks any of the girls are cute. I leave it open so that he can answer honestly. Do you think an LGBT youth could grow up and never step foot in the closet (at least with immediate family), thus making the coming out process (with the immediate family) obsolete? Can a family be so okay with homosexuality that, say, a fifth grade boy could tell his mom very comfortably that the boy in class in a Chargers jersey and still outgrowing his baby fat (or Baby Phat, who knows) is totes amazeballs?
My response: yes, it's possible. It's happening in more cases than in the past and parents aren't always panicking. It's important to remember though that not all gay men begin as effeminate boys, and that all effeminate boys do not become gay men. It seems to me that the point of the gay rights movement should not be to posit the need to be gay, or straight, or trans, or to hoist one model of how to be gay.
The point of the gay rights movement is to allow more people to be themselves. Which also makes it a liberation movement for straight people too.
Yes, kids need to be taught manners and ethics and virtues and vices. But they should never, in my view, be corralled into being a different personality or character than the one they were born with. In some ways, this is a core freedom. And, to my mind, allowing uniqueness to flourish reflects a true reverence for the mystery and pied beauty of God's creation.
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