Against Lap Dances

by Patrick Appel

Spencer Lund has an aversion:

Without getting all “look how enlightened I am,” the lap dance feels (and is) synthetic and transactional, which isn't sexy at all. But even without the money factor, it’s the fake boobs, the touching vs. non-touching, the general vibe of lechery, the forced conversation, and the sheer number of guys these women dance for, which combine to lead some men to dread the lap dance, as I do now. I’m sure I’ll be going to a strip club again in the not too distant future, as most of my friends are getting married at this age, and I like watching naked women. But I will never get another lap dance.