Hugo Schwyzer examines the phenomenon of women seducing underage boys:
[P]erhaps the most enduring myth brought up by cases like this is the idea that pleasure is incompatible with victimization. Real victims only feel pain, never arousal – or so far too many people still believe. An erection, or better still, ejaculation, functions as proof that a boy wasn’t really harmed. Most predators who molest children and underage teens know this; many sexual abusers go to great lengths to try to arouse their victims. The child’s pleasure functions as a kind of absolution in the mind of the abuser; "I can’t be that bad if I made them feel good!"
But of course, an orgasm isn’t evidence of consent.
As decades of research have shown us, a surprising number of male and female victims of sexual abuse do report having experienced some physical pleasure while they were being molested. That memory of arousal can lead to greater feelings of guilt, as it seems proof in a child’s mind that he (or she) was somehow complicit in what happened. "Part of me enjoyed it, so I must have wanted it," the thinking goes. Some therapists who work with survivors of abuse say that these cases are often the most difficult to treat.
The Dish 