Over the weekend I explained why I never made an It Gets Better video. The main reason was because I was never bullied for being gay. TNC relates:
I think one of the reasons I write as I do about race is because I never really saw myself as a direct "victim" of racism. I thought there were many things that would impede my life–but white people never really ranked among them. I understood–and understand–that racism is a powerful systemic force. I understand red-lining, block-busting, slavery, Jim Crow etc. I don't demean them as forces in American history. But there's a difference between understanding how society views your group and being daily taunted as a faggot or a nigger.
I feel the same way. I was once told confidentially and warmly by a friendly conservative muckety-muck that I would never be taken seriously as a conservative because I was gay. But I was once also told by a very similar scion in British Toryism that I would never be taken seriously as a conservative because I was a Catholic. I could spend my life dwelling on this unfairness, or simply ignore it, and do my work. And guess what? You disprove them in the end. If you deserve to.
The Dish 