The Stranger is featuring a series of happy couples' various takes on "traditional marriage". Dan Savage investigates the Femdom:
"At first I was like, 'Okay, I will be dominant in the bedroom if you will be submissive in other areas of our lives,'" says Elizabeth. "What I really wanted was a submissive to do the fucking laundry," she says. "I wanted him to do the dishes." Both agree that, at least at first, their exploration of erotic dominance and submission—Elizabeth's dominance, Robert's submission—was about Robert's desire to submit. But assuming the dominant role inside and outside the bedroom awakened something in Elizabeth. Today, she wouldn't contemplate returning to the way things were. Now Robert is submissive to Elizabeth at all times…
A larger lesson:
"The thing that [anti-gay social conservatives] think they're defending—the idea that there's only one way to be married—is already dead," says Robert. "And the one thing that would truly undermine our marriage would be to tell us that we're doing it wrong. We might not be married now if we had kept doing marriage the traditional way."
The Dish 