Tracy Clark-Flory has her doubts about Kristen Stewart’s public apology:
She described it as a "momentary indiscretion," which called up a host of post-affair cliches: "I made a mistake," "It just happened," "I wasn’t thinking," "It was a lapse in judgment" – and so on. It got me wondering: Are these accurate reflections of what actually happens when someone cheats — is it just a lapse, a mistake?
Clark-Flory consulted experts such as Debby Herbenick, a sex researcher at Indiana University:
"The chance to feel in love, to feel expanded in some way, to feel understood or intimate with another person, or to be sexual with another person, are powerful pulls for many people," she says. But those pulls are harder to explain to the cheated partner. "Because of societal stigma around cheating and affairs, it’s also difficult for many people to say things out loud, and sometimes even to themselves, such as ‘I just really desired that person.'"
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