For years, Dan Savage has insisted we all try to be GGG ("good, giving, and game … Think 'good in bed,' 'giving equal time and equal pleasure' and 'game for anything – within reason'"). Debby Herbenick finds that a new study from the Journal of Sex Research proves him right:
To be fair, the researchers didn’t actually examine the GGG phenomenon. They didn’t use the term "GGG," nor did they use the phrase "game for anything" anywhere in their research paper. Rather, they studied what they call "sexual transformations" – sexual changes that people make for the sake of their partner or their relationship. But as a scientist myself, I’m going to go out on a limb and pronounce the term "sexual transformations" to be the nerdier first cousin to the slightly cooler third G in the trifecta: "being game for anything – within reason"
The results?
Interestingly enough, participants’ own sexual transformations weren’t linked to their relationship satisfaction.
In other words, being game yourself wasn’t the key to your own satisfaction. Rather, women and men reported higher levels of relationship satisfaction when their partners said they’d made more "sexual transformations" (when their partners had been game for more- or less-frequent sex, trying new sexual activities, etc). I’m going to guess that, at least in part, this may be because when one’s partner adapts to your needs, you’re likely to feel heard, special, rewarded, valued, or – at the very least — you get to do the things you want to do, sexually.
The Dish 