Alyssa heralds their rise. On the movie whose trailer is seen above:
The tension in Don Jon comes not from the idea that Jon might be unable to overcome his addiction to porn and as a result, lose out on Barbara, but that these two horribly mismatched people might end up together because it’s what they expect they’re supposed to do. … [W]hile most romantic comedies focus on the work that couples do in the relationship they’ll end up in, putting their bad dates, agonizing breakups, and most hurtful failures in the past, unromantic comedies take a step back in time to focus on the fallacies, self-delusions, and errors that precede successful, long-term relationships.
I’d say those errors do not end with a successful relationship. They just need to be managed and recognized. One thing I have learned from married life is a realism about who I am and the daily effort required to make that work with another person. I think of my marriage as born in romance of the most extreme kind but sustained by unromantic commitment and love that is sometimes effortless but also sometimes an act of will. I’m a better person for it, flawed though I remain.
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