by Chris Bodenner
Such as this one:
As a man, one of the benefits of strict condom usage is that it allows me to fake an orgasm at will. Sometimes it’s because I’m insecure about achieving a real orgasm or avoid a partner’s insecurities (altruistic). From conversations with other men I know I’m not the only one, and yet in the wider culture the male-faked orgasm is invisible.
Another reader:
The Science of Faking It and Starting With Sex lead me to wonder, given some past blog posts, that you might open up a thread on men who fake orgasms. To encourage that, I thought I’d share the two times in my life that I’ve done so.
I’m a straight male in my late 20s, and each time I faked an orgasm it was with a girl I met and went to bed with without actually getting to know too well. Condoms are essential to that sort of thing. First time was when I brought home a girl who shouted so much (from the moment of penetration) that my roommate with whom I shared a wall walked out of the apartment and loudly slammed the door, which was such a terrific embarrassment that I essentially just quit the whole matter, faked a spasm or three in the rod, and told her I’d had it and was too tired to go on.
Second time was about four years later, when I left a terrible party and wound up at a bar nearby, met an extremely attractive woman who took me home with her. But she was completely un-participatory in bed. Up too late, and having had well enough to drink, I gave up on trying to please someone who obviously wasn’t interested in the first place. Faked a few spasms, then went to the bathroom to flush the evidence that I’d enjoyed it as much as she apparently had, and then went on to make a fool of myself by continuing to contact her and see her over the next few weeks, before she stopped talking to me. I’d say who could blame her, but I’d imagine that meeting a thoroughly disinterested partner is not a thing that is limited to gender.
Best I can say is that a man faking an orgasm is a method of saving face for both parties.
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