A reader writes:
I can hardly believe there’s been no reader response to the excerpt quoted in your post about sex after 60. I’m bisexual, polyamorous, almost 60, and recently back on the market after mourning the loss of a partner. Took my saggy old body and face out on the market, fearing the worst. Was welcomed with open arms by wonderful sexy imperfect humans of my own age, people who are out to maximize their pleasure and as much as possible the pleasure of others, and are not possessive. Given the explicitly sexual nature of the market I’m using (Adult Friend Finder, NSFW) and a general acceptance of Fucking on the First Date, one might expect a rough or skanky culture.
Quite the opposite. A generally courteous bunch, appreciative and even affectionate, but in a very non-controlling way. Generous and considerate in bed, and for the most part quite skilled (you pick up a few tricks every decade). Smart, honourable people; good communicators. In their fifties and sixties. Who like to fuck. Who like to try new games, new partners. Who know what they want. Who are really, really good at it.
So my conclusion is all the people who could refute A.A. Gill are all too busy having wonderful sex to bother. And I’m so glad my comments, if published, will be anonymous. Nobody in the town where I live knows what I do on my holidays.
Thanks for all the Dish.
(Photo © Rankin. See more of his work here. Hat tip: Ariane Fairlie)
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