Getting Bombed On A Budget

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The cheapest pour to be had is in Guangzhou, China, followed by Manila, Philippines. It’s no surprise that two developing countries with two thriving beer economies have cities that top the list of cheapest beers worldwide. Beer consumption per capita is among the highest in the world in China, and cheap beer is especially popular. In the Philippines, the beer market is highly mature, and almost 100% of it is produced locally.

More puzzling is the high ranking of Saudi Arabia, where alcohol consumption is banned. Its placement is likely based on prices for non-alcoholic beer, which is popular in the country and cheaper to produce. It would be hard to fathom alcoholic beer being that cheap under prohibition.

Divorcing Your Family, Ctd

More readers join the thread:

I guess you could say I “divorced” my sister. My dad was a sociopath. Rage was his default emotion, and it was terrifying. There wasn’t a week from age 2 through 15 when I wasn’t threatened. He was a drunk. He’d beat me, my mom, and my brother occasionally. Real violence was less frequent, but the threat was constant. I grew up being called lazy, stupid, effeminate, abnormal, and dishonest. He was convinced I was lying and hiding things. One afternoon while reading in bed in my first-floor bedroom, I looked up to see him staring at me through the window.

His personality estranged him from friends and relatives, and caused him to lose jobs frequently. As a result we moved a lot and I went to many schools. He finally set up a business in trucking, operating on the margins of legality. He kept a gun at the office, and pulled it out more than once during disagreements. As I got older, the abuse became more subtle – snide, underhanded sleights, mocking, and so forth. That continued until he died.

As a young man, my father had fought and put people in the hospital. He and his friends used to attack gay men. As you can imagine, he wasn’t thrilled to learn I was gay. He threatened to kill me, and I was kicked out of the house.

My older sister was his biggest supporter. She was always there to tell him things were my fault, run interference, provide alibis and negative gossip, shift blame, and question me as to why I didn’t like dad. Once he was almost ready to quit drinking after another drunken car wreck. I took him to his first AA meeting. She intervened, encouraging him to drink and providing a running commentary on why he had no problem.

After he died, I disowned her.

I have misgivings. She didn’t actively abuse me, my brother, or my mom. But she took sides and facilitated a horribly painful situation. Did I do the right thing? I think so. But I wonder. My reservations are mainly cognitive. From an emotional standpoint my decision feels right. I am happy to be done with her machinations. But there are times when I wonder if I was heartless to cut her off so completely.

Another reader:

For about 13 years, when I was 25 to about 38, my brother went into a serious depression and essentially disappeared from our lives. I spent those years working very hard to maintain any kind of contact with him and to support my parents in their pain. It was exhausting. And then, suddenly, my brother decided he was cured and ready to be back in our lives. I never understood the sudden change and was always leery to let him back in too much. I felt like he would just leave at any second again.

But he didn’t leave this time. I did. From his life, anyway.

Why? Once my brother got married and had a baby, all of his memories of childhood trauma returned to him and he started treating my parents and me terribly. After 13 years of trying so hard to make sure he knew he had a sister who loved him and cared about him no matter what, I just no longer have the energy to keep running after him.

Am I sad about that? Definitely. He’s my only sibling. I have no kids myself. My family was already small and now it’s two people smaller – the brother I no longer have and the nephew I’ll never know and who will never know me. Two years since the “divorce,” I still cry frequently about it.

But I’ll also never forget the incredible relief I felt when I decided I wouldn’t be calling him back after the last phone call of abuse. To know I was no longer going to run after him, reassuring him of my love and our bond as siblings who’d suffered through a tough childhood together was like dropping the weight of a dead body I’d been carrying on my shoulders for decades. That’s really what it was. An illusion of a life and a connection and a bond that was only alive in my imagination.

Another story has a much happier ending:

You’ve probably had too many of these already, but I had to throw in my two cents. One of your readers spoke of our society’s fixation with “blood,” as in blood relations. My father left us on Christmas morning when I was seven years old and never had much to do with us after that. Worse, he believed that he was owed visits from his children because he believed that’s what children were supposed to do (never mind that he couldn’t care less about us). The following years were torturous – living with an abusive, manic and damaged mother and watching each of my siblings drift into their own protective cocoons. In short, home life with my immediate family was a disaster.

Somewhere along the line I was unofficially adopted by the family of my best friend in high school. I spent more time there than I can remember and have long considered them my “real” family. Later, I married my friend’s sister and took on her three-year-old daughter as my own. I don’t think I’ve ever loved another human being more than my girl (she’s 16 now!).

I don’t know why I was destined to become a parent in this way. Perhaps I needed to close the loop and undo the damage my father did all those years ago. In any case, the discussion of blood resonated greatly with me. Blood is nothing. Love is everything.

A Gadfly Of The Literary World

In a profile of best-selling author Jennifer Weiner, Rebecca Mead lays out the many ways that Weiner “has stoked a lively public discussion about the reception and consumption of fiction written by women”:

The same cultural prejudices that maligned large women, she said, explain why books like hers do not get critical respect. Her campaign about books, she suggested, is more than just a campaign about books: “Just as I want plus-size women visible, and valued, and loved in my books, so do I want books like mine visible and valued, if not loved, by a critical establishment that’s still too rooted in sexist double standards, still too swift to dismiss women’s work as small, trivial, unimpressive, and unimportant.” …

Weiner has also been outspoken about female writers whom she considers unsisterly. When Meg Wolitzer told an interviewer that she was disturbed by a rise in “slumber party fiction—as though the characters are stand-ins for your best friends,” Weiner responded that “likable” had become the “new code word” for fiction previously disparaged as chick lit. Adelle Waldman, the author of “The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P.,” told Salon that she “didn’t want to write a book with a plucky heroine.” Later, Weiner tweeted an oblique, wounded gibe: “Girl writes about kissing from male POV, in Brooklyn, with artsy cover and impressive blurbs. Then it’s literature.”

Kat Stoeffel sides with Weiner:

Weiner’s campaigns sometimes seem undignified, like she’s yearning for entry to a male literary enclave that has loudly eighty-sixed her. … But what’s much more important is that she’s right.

Women novelists and critics and “feminine” genres are criminally underrepresented across literary institutions, which will sometimes lavish men like  [Jonathan] Franzen and and [Jeffrey] Eugenides with multiple reviews and a profile. (See: Franzenfreude, a term coined by Jodi Picoult and adopted by Weiner.) What sets Weiner apart from other female authors isn’t some innate writerly disqualification from the boy’s club, but her unique position to critique it. She’s one of a handful of female authors with the publishing clout — in terms of dedicated readership, sales, and movie options — to speak out against industry sexism without fearing retribution.

Amanda Hess acknowledges that “Weiner’s allegations of sexism in the critical establishment are persuasive in the aggregate,” however:

[T]hat does not mean that, all things being equal, Weiner is a great novelist or that she should be one of the Times’ 405 featured authors in a given year [89 of whom were female]. To a certain extent, Weiner acknowledges this as a necessary function of her critique. “Weiner says that she would relinquish her role as an ombudsman of publishing-world sexism if a writer with a more literary reputation took on the job,” Mead writes. “I imagine they have more to lose than I do,” Weiner told Mead. “If some literary woman were to be known as a gadfly, or a crank, even—somebody who won’t shut up, somebody who is persistent and abrasive—that could hurt her, careerwise.”

As a popular novelist ignored by the literary elite, Weiner’s crank status only serves to boost her own career. And many of her criticisms seem aimed at promoting her own writing style over that of “literary women,” even when these writers are also confronting industry sexism.

Jia Tolentino is on the same page:

Cleverly, Jennifer Weiner invites a double bind: though she’s put some dents in the Jonathan Franzens and Andrew Goldmans of the world, she is quick to enter the familiar, distinctly non-intersectional territory of Who Is Being the Right Kind of Woman and Who Is Not; to write her critiques off is to ignore some really pervasive sexism (“she lamented that publishers put dreamy covers on books by women even when their contents are less than dreamy”), and to take her very particular vantage point too seriously is to enter the same uncomfortable ring.

But it should be easier to fight for Malala [Yousafzai] than Jen Weiner; all sexism was not created equal; some kinds are deadly; the kind against Weiner is not, which highlights my single takeaway from this profile, which is that I’m tired of comparing things (books, people, women) that don’t have anything substantive in common at all.

Picturing Prufrock

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Julian Peters creates comic-book adaptations of poetry, with subjects ranging from Keats to Poe to Rimbaud. His latest is T.S. Eliot’s classic, “The Love Song of J. Alfred Prufrock.” In an interview, Peters explains why he chose it:

First off, because it is one of my very favourite poems. The language is incredibly beautiful, of course, and lord knows I can relate to Prufrock’s indecisiveness. And it is one of those poems that has always spontaneously created a multitude of vivid images in my mind’s eye. I also think it is just the sort of poem that works best as a poetry comic. First because it lays forth a narrative of sorts, and second because it is not too concrete in its imagery, so that in converting it into visual form there is little risk of being too straightforwardly illustrative. …

[U]ltimately the most challenging aspect of making poetry comics for me is getting the pacing right. There should be a rhythmic flow to the comic that captures the corresponding flow of the poem. Achieving this is mainly a matter of how to break up the text between the panels, how to arrange the panels, how to pace the visual narrative, and where to place the text in relation to the imagery. Of course, these aspects can be judged the most successful the less the reader is immediately aware of them.

Last month, a Boston Globe profile of Peters’ work underscored the connection between comics and poetry:

“[O]nce people realized that comics are a medium that can be used to express any number of things,” Peters says, “there was no reason they couldn’t be paired in a more serious way with poetry.” In 2007, the Poetry Foundation furthered the connection with an intriguing series called “The Poem as Comic Strip,” in which cartoonists interpreted some of the poems in the foundation’s archives. The comics are still online at the foundation’s website.

Peters’s work is a great argument for the commonalities between poetry and comic books. The lines of poetry and his comic panels hang together with an unexpected ease, as if their forward rhythms are in synch. Both the words and the images unroll across the page, visually, with the panels sometimes matching the line breaks or stanza breaks. Poetry, unlike most prose, can involve leaps of thought from line to line, which jibes with the way comics leap from panel to panel.

(Hat tip: Micah Mattix. Drawing of Prufrock’s opening lines courtesy of Julian Peters)

Our Need To Know Our Novelists

An investigation into author interviews:

It makes good commercial sense for publishers, journalists, and bookshops to promote author interviews. But these do not explain public interest in such interviews, or why we want our novelists to be celebrities. We have, after all, so many other celebrities to think about—celebrities whose jobs, if they have jobs, make for better stories than sitting alone moving words about on a screen. So why not spare novelists the burden of becoming public figures? Why not let them slope off to write their books in private, for the few souls left who read them? …

By [interviewer Ramona] Koval’s reckoning, we read or listen to author interviews for the same reason we read novels: to find out how to live. But where novels are often opaque in their wisdom, declining to tell us how to live as plainly as we might like, the interview offers clarity. There will be questions, there will be answers, and if the answers are a little elliptical—well, the interviewer can keep asking until the matter is resolved. The [1953] E. M. Forster Paris Review interview sets the tone for this kind of truth-seeking. “What was the exact function of the long description of the Hindu festival in A Passage to India?” “Would you admit to there being any symbolism in your novels?” Interviewer and novelist collaborate in isolating, condensing, and finally spoon-feeding the novel’s meaning to the audience. It’s been a long time since [Roland] Barthes declared the author dead, but we’re more eager than ever to hear the corpse speak.

Epic Elegies

Professor Borges, a new translation of an English literature course the author taught in 1966, reveals a writer who brushed off Beowulf and Shakespeare but was “unexpectedly stirred by the Saxon elegies of the ninth and tenth centuries”:

These are not poems of battle but personal poems of solitude and sadness. “The Seafarer,” for instance, has a startling opening that anticipates centuries of literature to dish_ruthwell come, including, most obviously, Walt Whitman: “I will sing a true song of me myself and tell of my travels.” Borges delights in the unselfconscious, colloquial way that, later in the poem, the poet describes a snowstorm from the north: “Hail fell on the earth, coldest of seeds.” This metaphorical pairing of opposites is new—hail summons death, seeds summon life—yet one doesn’t feel the poet straining for effect; it just seems to be the way he saw it.

The most remarkable of the elegies is the second part of “The Dream of the Rood,” when the tree from which the cross was made to crucify Christ speaks to us directly. The wood of the felled tree is sentient and alive. It tells us its story, it asks for forgiveness, and we feel the extraordinary imaginative newness of the poet becoming the voice of a tree. There is nothing pious or dutifully Christian about this part of the poem. It is the voice of the earth itself, expressing a torn sorrow. “The cross trembles when it feels Christ’s embrace,” remarks Borges. “It is as if the cross were Christ’s woman, his wife; the cross shares the pain of the crucified God.” What captivates Borges is the apparent purity of feeling in these verses, the sense that the writers are unaware of the originality of their poems. “They were forcing an iron language, an epic language, to say something for which that language had not been forged—to express sadness and personal loneliness. But they managed to do it.”

(Image of The Ruthwell Cross, an 18-foot-tall, free standing 8th-century Anglo-Saxon cross, on which part of “The Dream of the Rood” is inscribed, via Wikimedia Commons)

A Short Story For Saturday

The New Republic returns to publishing fiction with a new story from Nicole Krauss, “I Am Asleep but My Heart Is Awake.” How it begins:

Asleep in my father’s apartment, I dream that someone is at the door. It’s him—he is three, or maybe four, years old. He’s crying; I don’t know why, only that he is bitterly disappointed. I try to distract him by showing him a picture book with beautiful illustrations, in colors far brighter than those one gets in life. He glances at the book, but carries on anyway. In his eyes I see that everything has already been decided. So instead I pick him up and carry him around on my hip. It isn’t easy, but that’s how it has to be, because he’s so upset, this tiny father-child.

The latch of the front door awakens me. I’ve been living here alone for more than a week. Now, lying still, I listen to the sound of footsteps entering, and a bag being set heavily on the floor. The footsteps move away, toward the small kitchen, and I hear the creak of the cabinet open and close. The sound of water rushing from the tap. Whoever it is knows his way, so there is no one it can be.

Continue reading here, and check out Krauss’s latest novel, Great House, here. Previous SSFSs here.

The View From Your Window Contest

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You have until noon on Tuesday to guess it. City and/or state first, then country. Please put the location in the subject heading, along with any description within the email. If no one guesses the exact location, proximity counts.  Be sure to email entries to contest@andrewsullivan.com. Winner gets a free The View From Your Window book or two free gift subscriptions to the Dish. Have at it.

Poverty Non Grata

Jeff Shesol discovers that a “word search of the past fifty State of the Union addresses … turns up very few mentions of ‘poverty’ or the ‘poor’ after Johnson left office”:

The reasons for this are fairly straightforward. It’s a truism of American politics that helping the poor is an idea that (forgive me) polls poorly. The manifest failures in the war on poverty, the relentlessness of Republicans in exploiting those failures, and the unwillingness of Democrats to stand behind its real successes, all help explain that. Whatever the accomplishments of the war on poverty—and there were many—its disappointments created a kind of collective exhaustion with the subject and the complex political, moral, and economic questions it raises about our shared obligation to those among us with the least. Again, it’s hard to blame politicians when the polls tell them that we don’t really want to hear about any of this. Even the poor don’t want to hear about the poor: most (studies say) see themselves as “middle class.”