The Weapon of Choice project portrays visual manifestations of verbal abuse:
Called Weapon of Choice — to represent the abuser’s choice to use these words to harm — this project was a collaboration between photographer Johnson, make-up artists and victims of both verbal and physical abuse. The images imply the verbal abuse is inextricably tied to physical abuse, because that is what Johnson found to be the case with many of his subjects.
“While listening to the stories from participants who had suffered abuse, we discovered how closely physical abuse followed verbal abuse,” he writes. “Where we found evidence of one, we found evidence of the other. When the abuser chose to inflict harm, verbal abuse was just one of the weapons in the arsenal.”
Sabra, the company you may know but not necessarily love for their prepackaged hummus, is asking the government to create a standard definition of their signature product:
The Food and Drug Administration already does this with some other products like cream cheese (which must be 33 percent milk fat for manufacturers to market it as cream cheese). Sabra argues the hummus market has run amok; its time for Uncle Sam to step in. “Some products labeled as ‘hummus’ are made entirely from legumes other than chickpeas,” Sabra wrote in its filing with the Food and Drug Administration. “Because these products substitute other legumes, the marketing of these products as “hummus” undermines honesty and fair dealing.”
As a traditional Middle Eastern dip, hummus has two crucial ingredients: chickpeas and tahini (the latter being a paste made from ground sesame seeds). Sabra has surveyed the market and, in documents submitted to the FDA, finds these two ingredients decidedly lacking in many purported hummus products today. … “The marketing of a ‘hummus’ product made from legumes other than chickpeas is akin to the marketing of guacamole made with fruit other than avocados,” Sabra argues.
Strictly on the merits, they are correct here—the word “hummus” actually means chickpeas—though I find some irony in a company founded by Israelis demanding that the American government standardize the definition of an Arabic word. Of course, this move has nothing to do with the merits and everything to do with regulating competitors out of existence. Tim Cavanaugh sees right through it:
If Sabra wants to sell a chipotle hummus, more power to them. Consumers have spent millions of dollars on the company’s dry, bland, plastic-tasting product, and nobody was forcing them. But this FDA petition is about hobbling rivals, not helping restore the consumer’s “confidence in the food supply.” Only the excellent Tablet magazine even hints at the possibility that Sabra, which has about 60 percent of this rapidly growing market, might be looking to lock out competitors.
The phenomenon is called “regulatory capture,” and the reason you almost never hear about it is because the public and the media have fully internalized the language of good government. When big companies exert political influence, they are not trying to end regulation of their industries: They’re trying to create it so that competitors have a harder time completing. Notice how no company ever agitates for stronger regulations before it becomes the dominant player.
Ali Wyne reviews Robert Kaplan’s new book, Asia’s Cauldron, which explains the South China Sea’s centrality to Pacific politics:
He emphasizes three points. First, Chinese primacy in the South China Sea “would go a long way toward making China more than merely the first among equals of Eastern Hemispheric powers.” Second, the principal risk for China’s smaller neighbors is not invasion, but “Finlandization.” The growing gravitational pull of China’s economy doubles as a carrot—your economy will continue to flourish if you keep yourself open to our exports and investments—and a stick—you will endanger an increasingly important component of your economy if you take actions that undermine our national interests. Behind that dual-use instrument is an increasingly capable People’s Liberation Army (PLA). Given its aspiration of achieving a peaceful rise, China would prefer that its smaller neighbors accommodate themselves to its perspectives on the territorial disputes that are roiling the region (essentially, Kaplan explains, “give in without violence”). Third, the US “must be prepared to allow, in some measure, for a rising Chinese navy to assume its rightful position, as the representative of the region’s largest indigenous power.”
Posner analyzes China’s escalating disputes with Vietnam and the Philippines over maritime borders and islands in the sea:
One question that arises is why China and its neighbors are suddenly having so many conflicts that are violent or near-violent. The conflicting territorial claims have existed for decades but violence has been sporadic until recently (aside from the China-Vietnam War).
M. Taylor Fravel argues that China seeks to “consolidate” its claims by keeping other countries out of disputed areas. That would explain why China reacts aggressively–by sending in ships and planes–typically after the neighbors pass some law or take other actions that make clear that they consider their claims valid. But why are those countries provoking China in this way, and why now?
As Fravel suggests, China’s strategy is one of delay while claiming that the disputes are unresolved. The neighbors, by contrast, claim that there is no dispute and their claims are valid. China’s strategy thus seems more passive. And the reason is surely that time is on China’s side. China has grown more rapidly than all of its neighbors and looks likely to continue to do so for the near future, at least. As it becomes more dominant–both economically and militarily–its neighbors will be in a worse position to counter its claims in their shared waters.
Hugh White suspects that Beijing’s recent aggressiveness is also meant to limit American influence:
By using direct armed pressure in these disputes, China makes its neighbours more eager for US military support, and at the same time makes America less willing to give it, because of the clear risk of a direct US-China clash. In other words, by confronting America’s friends with force, China confronts America with the choice between deserting its friends and fighting China. Beijing is betting that, faced with this choice, America will back off and leave its allies and friends unsupported. This will weaken America’s alliances and partnerships, undermine US power in Asia, and enhance China’s power.
This view of China’s motives explains its recent conduct.
It’s that time of year again. Dish Publishing LLC is seeking an all-purpose intern to handle both administrative tasks and contribute to the editorial process. The admin side of the job will include: dealing with press inquiries and permissions, helping with support emails, managing the staff calendar, taking notes during meetings, making travel arrangements, and generally assisting the executive editors and me with sundry tasks. Strong organizational skills and attention to detail are musts. You need to be self-starting and pro-active in getting shit done.
The editorial side of the job will consist of ransacking the web for smart and entertaining nuggets, maintaining our social media presence, working on larger research projects, and helping the team guest-blog when yours truly takes a vacation. We prefer individuals who can challenge me and my assumptions, find stuff online we might have missed, and shape the Dish with his or her own personal passions. Reporting experience is also a big plus as we try to deepen our coverage. Someone with a background in web entrepreneurialism could catch our eye too.
The full-time internship pays $10 an hour, includes health insurance, and lasts for six months. The position is based in New York City. Since the Dish doesn’t have an office, most of the work will be done from home, but the staff meets regularly for lunch and coffee meetings and social gatherings. I want to emphasize that this is an intense job for the intensely motivated, and one that can get a little isolating at times. But it’s a pretty unbeatable chance to learn what independent online journalism can be as an integral part of a close-knit team. We’ve decided to pare down to one intern to keep our lean budget under control, which means the one individual really does have to be special. You have to already know what we do here and care deeply about the Dish. And a sense of humor is a real asset.
We are hoping to hire very soon, so don’t delay if you’re interested. The cutoff for applications is next Friday, May 30, at midnight. The start date is July 7, but we are flexible. To apply, please e-mail your resumé and a (max 500-word) cover letter to apply@andrewsullivan.com.
Sarah Cashmore considers the perils of mourning via social media:
[A] colleague of mine at University of Toronto recently completed a study where she investigated whether online grieving has implications for the bereaved or the memory of the loved one. They found that certain features of Facebook’s platform can actually create an environment of competition among mourners. This leads to the concern that users could inadvertently negatively affect the memory of their loved one, which I think is very important. …
I think the issue of using social media to bereave a friend points to a problem that goes for any cultural institution: as soon as you institutionalize a way of doing something, you open a possibility for responses to become artificial very quickly. For this reason, I don’t think there should be one way of bereaving a friend online. I think the lesson to be learned here is that the Internet needs to be open, and that we need to stay free to create our own spaces and new ways of communicating, on our own terms.
Tamara Kneese looks into one novel way people are managing their legacies online:
Today, multiple companies provide QR codes that attach to physical headstones and link family members and friends, but also random graveyard visitors, to memorial websites or other information about the deceased. Children can now learn all about the grandfather they never met while visiting his gravesite. In fifty or even one hundred years, so the idea goes, people will be able to scan QR codes with their devices and learn more about the people buried in a cemetery.
(Photo: The grave marker of Michael S. Hart, “inventor of the e-book, founder of Project Gutenberg, very dear friend, still digital from beyond.” By Flickr user Benjamin sTone)
I was rejected by the FBI because of pot! I applied to be a special agent shortly after 9/11. I had two major complaints about the process.
First, I had just finished two years of service in Morocco with the Peace Corps, and I thought I could leverage my language ability in Arabic. However, the only Arabic that they could test 0r give credit for was “FousHa”, or the educated version of Arabic that would be nearly unintelligible to uneducated Arabic speakers. No credit was available to speakers of dialects.
Second, they said I would have to make several certifications, including (if memory serves), “I have not used marijuana more than three times in the last five years,” and “I have not used marijuana more than 10 times in my life.” Since most of my marijuana experience was from a few trips to Amsterdam, I asked if it was relevant that I never smoked marijuana in violation of US law, or if I had never done so in violation of any law (I would have had to look a bit more carefully at Dutch law before certifying to that last one). Answer: Nope – look for another job.
I think the FBI recruiter said the marijuana policies were even more strict before Bill Clinton’s administration – the logic, perhaps, being that President Clinton wouldn’t want policies that would have excluded him. I left thinking, with all due respect to the FBI, that they didn’t have a clue of what they were recruiting for. The Arabic they were testing for would be useless to anyone trying to understand spoken Arabic in any country, and they were excluding otherwise qualified candidates on the basis of insignificant and lawful recreational pot use. So, no surprise here that they’re having trouble hiring hackers.
I think both dissenting readers are missing the bigger point of that Louie monologue, which is the absolute, irrefutably true statement that in our society, it’s harder for fat women than fat men. I’m writing that sentence as a fat (not BMI of 25 “overweight”) but a full-on fat man. I’m not saying I don’t get judged for my weight or deal with societal repercussions (I do), but there isn’t a doubt in my mind that a women of similar proportions would have it SO much worse. Why?
For starters, our species just loves double standards for women (remember: men who sleep around are studs, but women who sleep around are sluts). But also men are more superficial than women when it comes to dating, and so the pressure to not be fat pushes harder in one direction. Chubby men get a lot of passes (we get to be “husky” or “rugged” and get called affirming things like “big man” or “teddy bear”), that chubby women don’t. They just get told to stop eating and start running.
Another is less sympathetic:
Here’s a radical idea that deserves a place in the debate: The choice of a mate is an individual choice, and it is completely irrational to choose a mate you’re not physically attracted to, unless that’s the only choice you have. Maybe there’s a genetic component for mens’ general attraction to slimmer women, or maybe it’s the cultural forces of mass media. It doesn’t really matter. In either case, the fat girl in Louis CK’ show is essentially asking him – and the rest of the men she likes – to somehow transcend those forces and give her the love she wants.
Um, screw that. Fat or slim, short or tall, clever or dull, wildly successful or hopelessly unemployed, nobody gets to dictate to their crush. Not unless you’re Kim Jong Un, who seems to be doing fine with the ladies.
The scene is self-flagellation, and I understand Louis’ guilt. It’s important for us men to be conscious of the ruthless prejudices that are at the core of our libido, if only because that will help us to cope with the same prejudices that govern women’s attraction. On the other hand, how is Louis doing her a favor by taking her hand? By feeling sorry for her, is he really doing her a favor? What kind of future does a couple like that have?
It’s ridiculous. For some wildly entertaining cognitive dissonance, check out this comment thread on Jezebel. On this feminist blog, women readers routinely rail against the injustice of men who have the audacity to prefer slim women to the heavyset, and yet when those women are challenged to be honest about whether they’re attracted to short men, turns out these ladies have a prejudice of their own. Overweight women at least have the option of exercising and dieting to lose weight, whereas short men can do nothing about their height.
My advice to the fat girl on Louie: Life isn’t fair. Deal with it.
Update from a reader:
By way of introduction, I am a 5’8″ man with a 6’3″ wife. The height difference between us is my most defining physical characteristic as her sheer height is hers. She has dealt her whole life with inane questions about basketball (she hates sports) and lame pickup lines (“Hey, I’d love to climb that mountain”).
She has had female friends tell her that they couldn’t imagine marrying a man shorter than they are. And we aren’t talking about women like my wife who are at the far right end of the height distribution, either. I’ve had men tell me they are envious of my facial position when we dance.
What the actual fuck? Why is this such a thing?
Every now and then, I look across the room and think, “Jesus Christ, she’s tall.” Most days I don’t notice and neither does she. In fact, the nicest thing she’s ever said to me is that she thinks of me being taller than I am. Maybe she’s just compensating, but I love her for it. The only downside is that by the time my kids are thirteen, I’ll be the shortest one in the house and they’ll hide their pot on the top shelf where I can’t see it. Assuming it’s still illegal by then.
United Kingdom Independence Party (UKIP) leader Nigel Farage enjoys a pint of beer in a pub in Benfleet, England on May 23, 2014. Early local election results announced overnight show subsantial gains for UKIP. European election results will be released on May 25, 2014. By Peter Macdiarmid/Getty Images.