Breaking: Man Gets Off Online, Ctd

A reader writes:

You really struck a chord with the operative term on this one: consent.  Compare this to the issues in my hometown of San Diego, where our mayor Bob Filner seems to be engaging in a pattern of very non-consensual sexual harassment.  I didn’t vote for the guy, but I supported him once he was in office.  Now most of his sane supporters and I want him gone.  I can’t blame them – it speaks to a serious level of disrespect for other people.

Weiner’s actions were totally consensual.  All other things being equal, I’d still vote for him if I was a New Yorker.  Being a 29-year-old Millennial, I’ve gotten plenty sick of watching political careers get consumed by some good old fashioned hanky panky.  Kennedy (and countless others) did that shit too; he just didn’t have a mechanism to accidentally get pics of his dick exposed to the masses.

Other readers are much more critical:

I agreed with you until I saw that press conference.  Watching his naked narcissism on display and his poor, shy, beautiful wife having to smile and say she supports him in his attempt to resurrect his career made me think he’s just another asshole.  He has a problem.  The fact that while losing his career he is still engaging in the same behavior means he can’t help himself. This “I’m a changed man” tour is nonsense.  How hard is it to not send pictures of your dick, really? Does his ego need to be stroked (lol) that badly?

The first time I felt bad for him, sad that his career had to end over something that was personal and fairly innocuous in the scheme of things. Now after witnessing that spectacle of selfishness and blind ambition, I think he’s a scumbag. His wife should run for mayor instead.

Another:

Huma Abedin stated, “Anthony has made some horrible mistakes both before he was in Congress and after.” So, she clearly was not okay with his second round of extramarital sexting.  This was clearly not consensual and within the bounds of their own private marriage agreement.  It obviously was another shock, another upset to Huma.  She looked sad.

This by no means makes Weiner a pervert or a predator.  But it sure makes him reckless and selfish.

Even after his humiliation in Congress, knowing full well that any further sexting is going to come back to bite him and further humiliate him and his wife and upset his plans for NYC mayor and her career plans, he does it again? What’s wrong with this guy? It’s not being prude or judgmental for New Yorkers to ask whether or not they want a person with such an obvious lack of self-control at the levers of power.

Another:

At first, your post made total sense to me, but I came to a full stop when I read this: “and in virtual space, no coercion is really possible”. With all the stories of online bullying and the possibility of blackmail, coercion is totally possible.

I meant physical coercion. Another reader:

I appreciate your general critique of America’s sometimes puritanical culture being at odds with reality.  But it’s worth pointing out that Career Services officers are constantly admonishing college students to make sure there’s nothing embarrassing about themselves on-line.  Karen Owen of Duke is only the most extreme example of rendering oneself unemployable in Corporate America via a Google search.  Given that this reality has been appreciated for many years now, Weiner has (yet again) shown astonishingly poor judgement.  He is seeking responsibility for managing a city of 8 million people, yet if he were a college student or regular working stiff, he wouldn’t be able to find even an entry level job.

One more:

I recently took my girlfriend of three weeks out on a relatively expensive date involving dinner, drinks and a show.  Up until that night, she had been picking up the tab for something each time we went out, but on that particular night, she looked me in the eye and said, “This pussy has value. If you want to get laid tonight, you’re going to pick up the tab for everything.”  I was a little taken back because I’ve dated a few strict feminists in the past who insist on splitting everything 50-50 and I much prefer that, but the “This pussy has value” attitude is pretty prevalent among both men and women, and so like most men, on that particular night I picked up the tab for everything and I got laid.

All that is to say, what did Eliot Spitzer really do wrong?  He paid for pussy, a common transaction between men and women that happens every single day in 80-90% of the relationships in America – married and unmarried, long term and brand-new.  As far as I can tell, he exhibited no serious personality defects or general sliminess.  In fact, I appreciate that he kept it purely a business transaction.

Compare this to Weiner, who apparently can’t control his own behavior, entangled his sexual targets in his political life, repeatedly lied to everyone and attempted to shield himself behind his wife while exposing her to public humiliation.  It is for good reason I think that many people are willing to give Spitzer another chance while they are through with Weiner.

The Speech Before The Battle

Josh Barro analyzes Obama’s economic speech from yesterday, the first in a series of speeches the president has planned on the subject:

It’s likely the White House’s real goal with these speeches is one they can’t say out loud: Defend status-quo policy, and the tepid recovery it is allowing, against any future crises that Republicans might manufacture.

Andrew Sprung sharpens that point:

If an extremist GOP, drunk with its budget war victories over Obama since 2011, rivets the entire nation by shutting down the government because Obama won’t agree to defund Obamacare, or threatens the nation with default because Obama won’t agree to ruinous new spending cuts on top of sequestration — then Obama’s sane, sober, repetitive, essentially centrist calls for long-term investment and commitment to the middle class should trigger a public opinion backlash against the GOP, just as Bill Clinton’s did when the Republicans shut down the government because the president wouldn’t agree to massive cuts to Medicaid and Medicare …  Obama has said that he won’t negotiate over the debt ceiling. He most definitely will not agree to spending bills that defund Obamacare implementation. Will events finally drive him to hold firm in some kind of full-scale showdown with intransigent Republicans?

That’s how I saw it. Obama shows his persistent attention to the economy, which has improved on his watch, while the GOP tends to their fanatical base and moves toward shutting down the entire government because they lost the last election and cannot bear to see the winner actually govern, even from the banal center. Beutler is on a similar page:

Whether this is the White House’s true intent or not, the speeches will have the effect of reminding the country, implicitly, that of all the things the government can do to improve the economy, a debt default threat is among the worst. Addressing the issue obliquely is actually key to preserving the fragile governing coalition he’s helped to build in the Senate, and to avoid the sense that he’s the one drawing battle lines. And If voters have the question of the country’s economic future in mind through the summer, it will make picking a debt limit fight all the more dangerous for the GOP, and certainly be preferable to blindsiding the country with a new round of brinksmanship that puts the fragile recovery on the line once again.

How Jon Cohn understood the purpose of the president’s speech:

Obama mentioned Republican obstructionism in his speech, not once but several times, and not in short bursts but for extended soliloquies. There’s a reason. Major fiscal fights loom—over how to pay for government services, and under what conditions to raise the nation’s borrowing limit. House Republicans are already warning of new attempts at brinkmanship—like threatening to shut down the government if Obama won’t agree to de-funding of his health care plan.

Wednesday’s speech was the beginning of an effort to remind the American people about the stakes in those fights, and who supports what. Obama’s not going to win over the conservative base of the Republican Party, obviously, but he’s having at least some success working with less extreme members, like Senators John McCain and Lindsey Graham. Not coincidentally, Obama chose his words carefully, criticizing a “a sizable group of Republican lawmakers” who have threatened not to raise the debt limit but also praising the “growing number of Republican Senators [who] are trying to get things done.”

Chait adds:

Obama’s ultimate goal is not merely to insulate himself from blame if and when House Republicans shut down the government or threaten to default on the debt, but to build a coalition with pragmatic Republicans to negotiate around Boehner’s back. It’s not totally hopeless: Mitch McConnell is fighting back a revolt among pragmatic Republicans, like John McCain, who want to compromise on the budget.

Suderman doubts that Obama can break the gridlock:

Obama’s insistence that he would do everything he could to break congressional gridlock only underscored how little there is he can do in response. “I will not allow gridlock, inaction or willful indifference to get in our way,” he said. “Whatever executive authority I have to help the middle class, I’ll use it. Where I can’t act on my own, I’ll pick up the phone and call CEOs, and philanthropists, and college presidents – anybody who can help – and enlist them in our efforts.” That’s right: The president is willing to pick up the phone and call philanthropists and college presidents, if that’s what it takes.

There isn’t, in other words, much he can do—or at least not much he can do that he also wants to do. And in Obama’s view, that seems to be the real problem.

And Drum wishes Obama’s speech had been bolder:

In what possible universe would bold new proposals break through the brick wall of modern Republican opposition to anything that’s not a tax cut for the rich? Obama could announce that John Galt has invented a free energy machine and just needs a small federal grant to commercialize it, and Republicans would oppose it. Obama could announce anything at all, and Republicans will reflexively oppose it.

The reason Obama should be bolder is not because it might “break through the resistance.” He should be bolder precisely because it wouldn’t make any difference. If you’re going to meet an adamantine wall no matter what you do, why not shoot for the stars? At least that way you’ve made it clear whose side you’re on.

AbFab Goes Royal

Had a coffee splutter this morning over this one:

William Sitwell, editorial director of John Brown Media, which publishes the Waitrose magazine, stands by the choice of Pippa. “Sales are soaring since she started writing for us,” he said recently, estimating that the circulation on the magazine has jumped from 1.5 million to 2.2 million. “She is a good cook and writer and works very hard,” he said, adding that she comes into the office once every month or two when they “bash out a few issues” and that “she has impressed the whole team here.”

My italics.

The Capitulation Of Samantha Power, Ctd

A reader writes:

I agree that it’s disappointing that Samantha Power censored herself in her nomination hearing and adopted the Washington line on some controversial subjects. But in criticizing the system that forces candidates to do so, you came down too hard on Power herself. Yes, it would be great if she took a stand and spoke her mind, but who would it serve if she jumped on her own sword? She might have put a dent in the system, but she might have just become a footnote in history, like Bork – used to caution future presidential appointees from speaking too candidly. Probably the latter.

You can’t look at Power’s career, or read Problem From Hell, and not come away thinking that she has a goal to use American power to serve humanitarian ends. Now that she is on the cusp of having a real, direct impact of US decision-making, should she speak the truth and likely claim only a moral victory, or hunker down, make some compromises and work to effect change from within? I sure can’t blame her for choosing the second option.

Another also sticks up for Power:

I would normally agree with you that watching confirmation hearings turn into Israel Day Parades is unsettling, and only confirms the worst stereotypes about Jewish control over Washington, etc. Hagel’s dance was particularly ridiculous, as Saturday Night Live (almost) pointed out.

However, it must be acknowledged that Power is up for UN Ambassador. While criticism of Israel is healthy and deserved, the UN takes this to new heights; no other country has been as lambasted and pilloried as Israel has. It is routinely called to task by a UN Human Rights Commission comprised of Cuba, Syria, Iran, etc. It is ridiculous and unfair, and only entrenches the Israeli right’s attitude of “they are all against us, screw em” that is a large part of the problem over there.

Whereas I didn’t care much for hearing Hagel swear allegiance to the Likud, it was nice to hear Power at least commit herself to defending Israel from the hypocrisy swamp that is the UN on this issue.

Ask Ken Mehlman Anything: What’s The Future For Marriage Equality?

A reader understandably asks:

I think your readers are a little bit more interested in what Ken was thinking while he was in the closet and shepherding anti-gay marriage laws in several states as head of the Republican Party. Why hasn’t he been asked this?

Because he felt that he had adequately addressed that question already, and our policy in the Ask Anythings is not to insist on an answer for any specific question. We give a huge amount of autonomy to the guests – and that was no different for Mehlman than for anyone else. Here are his previous confessions:

In an interview with Salon, the chairman of President Bush’s 2004 reelection campaign says he personally apologizes to people who “were harmed by the campaigns in which I was involved.” Ken Mehlman came out as gay in 2010. At the time, he expressed regret that he didn’t push back against the Bush campaign’s support for a federal anti-gay marriage amendment and anti-gay marriage initiatives on state ballots. “I can’t change the fact that I wasn’t in this place personally when I was in politics, and I genuinely regret that. It was very hard, personally,” he said.

Earlier this year, he said: “At a personal level, I wish I had spoken out against the effort,” Mehlman said. “As I’ve been involved in the fight for marriage equality, one of the things I’ve learned is how many people were harmed by the campaigns in which I was involved. I apologize to them and tell them I am sorry.”

I know exactly why these responses may not feel sufficient to many Dish readers.

But the Ask Anythings are not designed as classic persistent interviews by a lone interviewer. They’re constructed to give the speaker a chance to say whatever he or she feels – to shine or not, in the eyes of the readers. I am not in the room when the sessions are recorded, (with a few exceptions). The questions are voted on by readers. And what a guest chooses to talk about is often as revealing as what he or she chooses not to talk about. Our policy is to let them prove or hang themselves – and let you be the judge.

I also totally understand the sentiment that the man should still be raked over the coals for the 2004 campaign, especially in Ohio. But I have a firm and long policy in these cultural wars. Those seeking heretics will always lose to those seeking converts. And Mehlman is not just talking the talk on this; he has made a real difference in recent years in advancing the cause – which seems to me more important than settling old scores. Given that Mehlman has publicly apologized (unlike, say, Bill Clinton) to the gay victims of his past, I was not going to force another one in a format where we never do that anyway. It was my call to maintain these rules, but, of course, if Mehlman had wanted to apologize and explain again, I would not have stood in the way. He chose not to.

Because of these very limitations on Ask Anythings, we’ll be offering subscribers this fall a series of podcast conversations between me and a variety of other human beings where, trust me, I follow up questions relentlessly. They will not be traditional interviews, as on cable news or TV generally, just as the Ask Anything isn’t like anything on TV. They’ll be conversations – wide-ranging, spontaneous and with no topics off the table. They have no fixed time limit – and vary wildly in length and content.

We’re calling them “Andrew Asks Anything”. We have several in the bag and I’ll be taping more this fall. Stay tuned. But these will only be for subscribers. To become one, [tinypass_offer text=”click here”]. It’s as little as $2 a month, and, without ads, is our only source of income.

Ken’s previous answers are here. Our full Ask Anything archive is here.

You Think “Weiner” Is Bad?

A reader has that surname beat:

This is not an exact parallel to the Weiner case by any, uh, measure, but in the pre-Internet 1980s, Nashville once elected a mayoral candidate who, once he was in office, left his wife (she was his third) and before his divorce was final, became engaged to a cabaret singer named Traci Peel. For a few months, Nashvillians had a mayor who was married and engaged at the same time.

Ms. Peel promptly gave an interview to a local newspaper in which she confided that she and the mayor had just enjoyed “seven hours of passion.” Shortly afterward, the duo appeared on a national broadcast of the “Donohue” show, during which the mayor played harmonica as his fiancée belted out a version of the country staple “Rocky Top,” And then, in an interview, he blamed all of his troubles on the media sensationalizing his private life.

This amazing politician’s name? Boner. Bill Boner.

The man had more balls than the current Speaker of the House.

Dissents Of The Day

A reader writes:

I don’t think you summarized Victor Davis Hanson fairly at all, and the “gist” of his article that you quoted doesn’t even include “the talk” or “the advice,” which is exactly the point that you are criticizing. He says that the “sermon” he received from his dad was “very precise,” and then he says that he gave his son a similar talk. Here’s what his dad told him, according to VDH (this is right before the section you quoted):

… he once advised me, “When you go to San Francisco, be careful if a group of black youths approaches you.” Note what he did not say to me. He did not employ language like “typical black person.” He did not advise extra caution about black women, the elderly, or the very young — or about young Asian Punjabi, or Native American males.

So it’s simply inaccurate for you to summarize the advice as “be wary of all young black males that you meet.” The advice is that if a) you’re in an urban setting, b) you are approached by c) a group of young black males, then d) be careful.

I think that’s pretty mild, especially given the other things he said (e.g. his father constantly stressed the importance of treating people as individuals, he was involved in legitimately progressive work with the underprivileged). I don’t know why VDH thinks it important or helpful to write a column about this advice, other than the fact that he uses it to criticize Obama’s speech. And maybe you still want to say this is ridiculous and over-suspicious and stupid. Okay. But it is pretty contextual and definitely more specified than your summary indicates. And you of all people should care about representing that accurately – just think of how you get quoted and decontextualized by those who accuse you of anti-Semitism.

My reader is wrong. Hanson specifically refers to the “talk” that African-American fathers give their sons, as described by Eric Holder, and posits his family’s white alternative. Using the word “sermon” rather than “talk” doesn’t change what he is talking about. And he summarizes the sermon thus:

The advice was not about race per se, but instead about the tendency of males of one particular age and race to commit an inordinate amount of violent crime.

He then cites incidents in his own life that have nothing to do with criminal profiling on the street of “groups” of young black men. He refers to his own experience of one attempted burglary by two black males, and one attempted bike-theft (while VDH was apparently on it) by four black males. Then he says that he “could cite three more examples that more or less conform to the same apprehensions once expressed by a younger Jesse Jackson.” Here is the quote I assume VDH is referring to:

There is nothing more painful to me … than to walk down the street and hear footsteps and start thinking about robbery, then look around and see somebody white and feel relieved.

That’s a broader brush than even Hanson, and I think it makes clear what VDH is saying here. If you see a young black man, go to the other side of the street. Another reader:

I’m going to mount a qualified defense of Hanson.

A perfectly rational actor, working with imperfect information, will not make the blanket assumption that all black men are threats.  However, a rational actor will regard an unknown black male as seven (or so) times more likely to pose a threat than an otherwise identical white male.  This is the risk ratio the data show, and ignoring the data doesn’t make the risk go away.  You and other commentators make it sound like one is either wholly innocent of racial (or gender, etc.) profiling or a deluded, paranoid racist.  But this is a false dichotomy.  There is a rational, data-driven amount of race, gender, dress, and age profiling that one should do when operating with poor information and a short time-frame (e.g., walking alone at night), and that amount is not zero with respect to any of these.

There are human costs to this, no doubt. I’m a male (Chinese ancestry), but I cannot rationally be offended when a young woman crosses the street when she sees me late at night and I’m dressed scruffily.  No one should panic or be paranoid, but you cannot be mad at people for playing the odds in a rational way when their safety is in play.  Too many writers try to ameliorate empirical, statistical risks with feelings.

The “human cost” is the unjustified association of any single young black man with criminality. The social cost is the entrenchment of racial segregation. And no, old Chinese men in scruffy clothes do not seem to me experiencing the same thing. Another reader:

There is no such thing as “racial profiling”: there is criminal profiling, and selecting young black males, hoodies, swagger, etc. for profiling is perfectly rational, given who overwhelmingly commits the muggings, assaults, robbery, thefts and general menacing. Likewise, profiling young single white men with social problems and an obsession with camouflage or violent video games is perfectly rational given who overwhelmingly commits mass random shootings.

The Puritanism Of Progressive Parents, Ctd

A reader writes:

I’ll leave readers to decide how convincingly Mark Oppenheimer made his case about liberal puritanism, but as a proud Stumptowner, I gotta call BS on dragging Portland into it.  Like so many local issues, when an essayist just grabs a headline and lazily uses it as a metaphor for some larger theme, his whole premise is undermined by misunderstanding what actually happened.

So here’s what actually happened. Flouridation has gone down at the ballot three times here – 1956, 1962, and 1978.  Oregon, like other Western states, was red until the Clinton years.  The voters who defeated these measures through the decades were not the hipster stereotypes you see on Portlandia.  In this year’s election, the proponents outspent opponents 3 to 1 and represented a lot of the bedrock liberal interests that fuel Portland’s liberalism.

The reason voters rejected it is the same reason they always do: they have a romantic love of the natural beauty of Oregon and are enormously proud that their water comes straight from the Bull Run Reservoir in the Mt Hood wilderness.  It arrives completely untouched and untreated – pure Cascade spring water.  Most Oregonians are immigrants who were attracted to this region for the natural bounty, and Bull Run water is a powerful testament and metaphor for that purity.  The measure failed by 20 points, not because radical lefties were afraid of fluoride (even in Portland, you don’t get 60% on far-left votes), but because of the idiosyncrasies of tap water.  Lots of random Oregonians voted to save the water in its natural state.  That’s how we roll.

(For the record, I voted for fluoride.)

Update from a few readers:

“It arrives completely untouched and untreated – pure Cascade spring water.” Bullshit. All tap water in the country is treated. One hiker with giardia taking a dump in the watershed and the whole city, well, you get the idea. (The watershed is generally off-limits, but still.) From the City’s website:

The 102 square-mile protected Bull Run watershed collects water from rain and snowmelt that then flows to the Bull Run River and its tributaries. The river drains into two reservoirs, where more than 17 billion gallons are stored. The Portland Water Bureau treats the water before it enters into the three conduits that transport it to Portland. The water moves through the system by gravity, requiring no fossil fuel consumption to move water from its intake to the main storage reservoir at Powell Butte.

The other reader:

With all due respect to my fellow Portlander, my read of the anti-fluoride vote was very different.  I didn’t see it as a romantic desire to preserve the natural beauty or the clear water coming from Bull Run and helping maintain our PBFs.  Rather, I saw it as exactly the kind puritanism the author of the original piece so justifiably pointed out.

I wrote a piece for Skepchick on the subject and posted it to my Facebook wall and my circle disseminated it widely.  When I was interviewed by the Oregonian (local paper) about the issue, friends of my partner at PSU started asking why I was “shilling for the chemical industry” and accused me of the most sinister motives.  I didn’t “care about children” etc.  It is the psychology of purity and taboo in run completely rampant.

The left has entered into a love affair with the naturalistic fallacy which, at times, is equally infuriating and amusing.  Infuriating because there’s no scientifically supportable reason to be anti-fluoride, anti-vaccine or anti-GMO and the hypocrisy of leftists who mock right-wing partisans for their global warming denial or their evolution denial is just a little too rich for my tastes.  It is amusing because Whole Foods and other companies have discovered that the primrose path to the wallets of liberals is marked by the signs “Natural” and “Organic”.  Put those words on your product and lefties will beat a path to your door to give you their money. There’s a very cynical part of me that gets a chuckle out of it.  Then I remember the public policy implications of neither side being willing to be “humble before the data” of the real world and I face-palm and despair for the kind of mess we’re going to burden my grandchildren with.

Now, I say this as a committed liberal (although I like to think of myself as a Burkean Liberal, by which I mean that my public policy commitments are, on the whole, pretty in line with social democracy but tempered and held in check by a rather pessimistic view of human nature that we are not perfectible as a species and we should, where possible, look for incremental changes instead of radical lurchings pillar to post in public policy).  Above all we should try not to break things because as many ways as there are to have a society, there are far more ways to have a bad society than a good one.

Lives We Know How To Save

Atul Gawande spotlights medical innovations that have failed to catch on. For instance:

The global problem of death in childbirth is a pressing example. Every year, three hundred thousand mothers and more than six million children die around the time of birth, largely in poorer countries. Most of these deaths are due to events that occur during or shortly after delivery. A mother may hemorrhage. She or her baby may suffer an infection. Many babies can’t take their first breath without assistance, and newborns, especially those born small, have trouble regulating their body temperature after birth. Simple, lifesaving solutions have been known for decades. They just haven’t spread.

Many solutions aren’t ones you can try at home, and that’s part of the problem. Increasingly, however, women around the world are giving birth in hospitals. In India, a government program offers mothers up to fourteen hundred rupees—more than what most Indians live on for a month—when they deliver in a hospital, and now, in many areas, the majority of births are in facilities. Death rates in India have fallen, but they’re still ten times greater than in high-income countries like our own.

Not long ago, I visited a few community hospitals in north India, where just one-third of mothers received the medication recommended to prevent hemorrhage; less than ten per cent of the newborns were given adequate warming; and only four per cent of birth attendants washed their hands for vaginal examination and delivery. In an average childbirth, clinicians followed only about ten of twenty-nine basic recommended practices.

He goes on to describe attempts to improve these practices.