[T]here were women who described being really disillusioned with men in the outside world and finding that men who were incarcerated, who have a lot of time to think about things, are very reflective, read a lot of books—they really appreciated what these men cultivated in themselves and brought to the relationship. And a lot of this for women focused on communicativeness. I heard over and over stories of men writing 20-page letters and spending multiple hours in visits with nothing to do but talk. The women really, really valued these conversations and thought men on the outside hadn’t been socialized to communicate in these sorts of ways, hadn’t been in circumstances to develop those skills.
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