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Surrender, Ann Friedman!

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A pundit rarely gets vindication quite as quickly as this. When Olympic star Tom Daley recently told the world he was bisexual, Ann Friedman declared that he was an icon for a newly and increasingly fluid male sexuality:

Daley also elicited a more specific sort of disapproval from certain fans — biphobia, the Advocate called it. These were the people who assumed Daley was gay but unable to fully admit it, or unwilling to relinquish the privileges of being straight … Traditional definitions of masculinity — which tend to go hand in hand with homophobia — are going through a real shake-up. More hetero men are tentatively admitting that they’re turned on by certain sex acts associated with gay men. And Daley’s ambiguous coming-out had some mainstream sports sites sounding like a Gender Studies 101 classroom. “In truth, there should be no need for him to declare his sexuality,” wrote a blogger at BleacherReport. This is progress.

I don’t doubt that male bisexuality is real, if rare. But I wasn’t buying it in the case of Daley:

Let me place a bet with Friedman: Daley will never have a sexual relationship with a woman again, because his assertion that he still fancies girls is a classic bridging mechanism to ease the transition to his real sexual identity. I know this because I did it too.

Maybe we’ll check back in in a few years’ time, and see which one of us has turned out to be right.

Friedman mocked this as impossibly vague (and she had a point) so I revised, even as I was raked over the coals by readers:

Let me rephrase my bet with Friedman. Check in in ten years’ time.

Five months later, ta-da! Tom Daley confirms he is totally gay. As I predicted. As I – and any gay man not saturated with pomo nonsense – knew. Again: this doesn’t mean that there aren’t bisexual men out there. But it does mean there’s gaydar. And Ann Friedman ain’t got none.

(Photo: Tom Daley by Clive Rose/Getty Images)

Just Looking

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Mohan Matthen parses the philosophy of visual pleasure:

Aesthetic pleasure is pleasure in contemplating something. This pleasure could be sensory, like the enjoyment one derives from looking at a painting or listening to music. Or it could be intellectual, like the pleasure of reading the latest Robert Harris. In both cases, pleasure in contemplation has to be distinguished from wanting an object for other uses.

Immanuel Kant in the 18th century was among the first to understand this. His example was that of a palace. You might long to live in it, or you might hate it for its extravagance and want to destroy it. But both of these responses are distinct from the pleasure or displeasure derived from merely looking at it. Only the latter pleasure counts as aesthetic.

Discussing sexual selection, Charles Darwin wrote:

‘When we behold a male bird elaborately displaying his graceful plumes or splendid colours before the female … it is impossible to doubt that she admires the beauty of her male partner.’ Assuming that he really means beauty, and not sexual attractiveness, this is a mistake. It confuses sexual desire with aesthetic admiration. According to Darwin’s own theory, when a female looks at a male that way, she is not getting pleasure from looking at him for the sake of looking at him; rather, she is driven to mate with him. Darwin wrongly equates the lustful gaze with simple looking. Kant’s point was that aesthetic appreciation is disinterested. It is pleasure just in looking.

On the above photo by Mohammad Reza Domiri Ganji:

The stunning Nasir al-mulk Mosque hides a gorgeous secret between the walls of its fairly traditional exterior: stepping inside is like walking into a kaleidoscope of colors. Every day, the rays of the early morning sun shine through colorful stained-glass windows, transforming the halls into a dazzling wonderland of rich hues, patterns, and light that play on the floor of the mosque.

In addition to the glorious display of light and color through the stained glass, the mosque features other striking elements of design and architecture, including intricate geometric tile designs, painted arches and niches, and spectacular domes. The usage of beautiful rose-colored tiles in the interior design earned the mosque the nickname Pink Mosque in popular culture.

The mosque, located in Shiraz, Iran, was built from 1876 to 1888 by the order of one of the Qajar Dynasty lords. The beautiful structure was designed by Muhammad Hasan-e-Memar and Muhammad Reza Kashi Paz-e-Shirazi.

More stunning shots of the mosque here.

Morsi The Anocrat

Measuring his brief reign by using the Polity IV index, Shadi Hamid and Meredith Wheeler conclude that ousted Egyptian president Mohammed Morsi “was no Mandela, but he was no autocrat, either”:

The Polity index is scored from -10 to 10, with negative values representing more autocratic regimes and positive values representing more democratic regimes. The most charitable reading of Morsi’s tenure—the upper bound of our score—was a 4. However, we think the most accurate score—drawing not just on the letter of Polity’s coding guidance, but also the spirit—is a 2. In real terms, this means that Morsi’s year in office was anocratic—that is, it was democratic in some ways and autocratic in others. Morsi was democratically elected and subject to meaningful institutional and popular constraints. When he edged toward autocracy in November 2012 and made his decrees exempt from review, widespread protests forced him to backtrack. The Morsi government and the Muslim Brotherhood showed favoritism toward Islamist-aligned groups, harassed or threatened prominent opposition voices, and detained secular activists such as Ahmed Maher. However, unlike the current military-backed government, it did not systematically repress and imprison opponents. Moreover, Morsi’s winner-takes-all majoritarianism was counterbalanced by what Nathan Brown calls the “wide state,” including the military and security establishments, a powerful judiciary, and business elites.

Egypt’s next president, on the other hand …

Why We Love Sad Songs, Ctd

A reader writes:

I have a response to two different but related items at the Dish: the recent post about why we like sad songs, and the moving, thoughtful remarks about suicide prevention from Jennifer Michael Hecht.  I want to offer up one of the most poignantly beautiful songs about suicide that I know of, Lucinda Williams’ “Sweet Old World.”  Written in response to a friend’s suicide, the song basically catalogues the many things the departed friend is now missing out on.  The song manages to express mourning for the loss of the person who chose to leave “this sweet old world” and also becomes a sort of meditation on things for which we should be grateful.  It’s a remarkable song. Here’s Lucinda herself performing the song [unembeddable]. And it happens that Emmylou Harris also did a very nice cover [above]. Here are the lyrics:

See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world
The breath from your own lips, the touch of fingertips
A sweet and tender kiss
The sound of a midnight train, wearing someone’s ring
Someone calling your name
Somebody so warm cradled in your arms
Didn’t you think you were worth anything
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world

Millions of us in love, promises made good
Your own flesh and blood
Looking for some truth, dancing with no shoes
The beat, the rhythm, the blues
The pounding of your heart’s drum together with another one
Didn’t you think anyone loved you
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world
See what you lost when you left this world, this sweet old world

Sending thanks from NYC, a city where one can be surrounded by tens of millions of people and yet still feel quite alone …

Driven To Success

A new study (pdf) from the Urban Institute suggests that access to cars makes low-income Americans more likely to escape poverty. Co-author Rolf Pendall explains the findings:

Our evidence comes from two Department of Housing and Urban Development demonstration programs: Moving to Opportunity for Fair Housing and Welfare to Work Vouchers. Both were designed to test whether housing choice vouchers—that is, subsidies that allowed participants to choose where they live—propelled low-income households into greater economic security. …

The results? Housing voucher recipients with cars tended to live and remain in higher-opportunity neighborhoods—places with lower poverty rates, higher social status, stronger housing markets, and lower health risks. Cars are also associated with improved neighborhood satisfaction and better employment outcomes. Among Moving to Opportunity families, those with cars were twice as likely to find a job and four times as likely to remain employed.

Emily Badger considers the implications:

All of these findings are as much a reflection on the value of cars as the relatively poor state of public transit.

The underlying issue also isn’t so much that cars create opportunity. Rather, it’s that we’ve created many places where you can’t access opportunity without a car. Which also means that we’ve created places that punish people who don’t have one (or can’t afford to get one). That’s a much larger critique. …

How, though, would you increase car access among the poor in a way that doesn’t simply saddle families with even more unsustainable expenses? Car ownership, for any kind of family, comes with all kinds of related costs: in insurance, in repairs, in gas. The burden of those costs, though, tends to weigh even more heavily on the low-income. They’re more likely to access financing through a predatory loan. They may have less access in the neighborhood to a reliable mechanic. A family living in a low-income neighborhood with high crime by definition faces higher insurance rates.

Chart Of The Day

Border Deaths

Deaths near the US-Mexico border are on the rise:

The graph [above], from the Washington Office on Latin America (WOLA), shows that fatalities nearly doubled between 1998 and 2012. The only year with more deaths than 2012 was 2005. WOLA researchers Adam Isacson and Maureen Meyer explained in April 2013: “In that year, Border Patrol captured more than three times as many migrants as it did in 2012. The migrant population was far larger, but the number of deaths was similar. A much larger fraction of the migrant population is dying today.” The most recent data from the U.S. Border Patrol puts fatalities in 2013 slightly below the 2012 figure—445 deaths compared to the previous year’s 477—but that still puts 2013 ahead of every other year but 2005 and 2006.

Dressing Down A Dress Code

After an Evanston, IL middle school banned leggings on the logic that they are “distracting to boys,” seventh grader Sophie Hasty spearheaded a civil disobedience campaign against the new rule. In an interview with Amanda Hess, the 13-year-old girl explains how the dress code fight came about:

Last year, I never really paid attention to the dress code. But this year, teachers started to get stricter about it and giving stupid reasons for it. The reason was basically: “boys.” It’s a lot like saying that if guys do something to harass us, it’s our fault for that. We’re the ones being punished for what guys do. My friends and I got mad about it, and we would talk about it often earlier in the year, but we didn’t think we could really do anything about it.

Girls caught wearing leggings are forced to put on their gym shorts over them, which draws much more attention than the leggings themselves:

It’s humiliating to walk around the hallways wearing bright blue shorts. Boys yell “dress code!” when they see you. They act more inappropriate when you’re walking around in blue shorts when you’ve gotten dress-coded than when you’re just wearing leggings. I asked a teacher to tell us about an incident where a girl was wearing leggings and a guy was getting distracted. There hasn’t been one.

Eliana Dockterman calls the no-leggings rule akin to slut shaming:

The argument being made by school administrators is not that distant from the arguments made by those who accuse rape victims of asking to be assaulted by dressing a certain way. We tell women to cover themselves from the male gaze, but we neglect to tell the boys to look at something else. That this has a sexist undertone is demonstrated by the fact that the girls who had more curves to show off were the ones more often disciplined. “Students who were getting ‘dress-coded,’ or disciplined for their attire, tended to be girls who were more developed,” Juliet Bond, a parent of a student at Haven, told the Evanston Review.

Lucy Shapiro, a 12-year-old at Haven, added that when both she and a friend wore the same type of athletic shorts, a teacher disciplined her but not her friend because, she was told, “I had a different body type than my friend…With all the social expectations of being a girl, it’s already hard enough to pick an outfit without adding in the dress code factor.”

The Best Of The Dish Today

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Michael Lewis’ thoroughly readable book, Flash Boys, caused something of a stir on Wall Street yesterday. Check out the cheers from the stock market floor as they react to the debate. I’ve embedded the whole thing because, well, it’s worth it to see a major Wall Street asshole called out – at length. Michael’s summary of the book – at around 20 minutes – is really helpful. You need to read the book – get it here – to see how, for some time, insiders used incredibly fast trading in “dark pools” to get a lead on everyone else, and thereby stole an advantage on the average investor, i.e. you and me.

I wasn’t naive to expect that the sharks who tanked our entire economy by their greed, incompetence and contempt for the rest of us would somehow reform themselves. But it’s a huge relief to know that Michael is still out there asking the right questions; and a blessing to see the mild-mannered Canadian, Brad Katsuyama, speak honest truth to devious money – and actually do something about it.

I’ll be moderating Michael’s DC book-signing event, via Politics and Prose, at GW’s Lisner Auditorium at 7 pm this Friday. Tickets are available here.

Today, I tried to live up to Ta-Nehisi Coates’ recent soaring blogging about race and America; we marked the first month since 2003 in which not a single service-member died in combat (change you can believe in); we aired more defenses of Cosmos‘ history; and noted the harsh treatment of the poor in Paul Ryan’s brutal budget for the rich. And we re-launched our Book Club, with Bart Ehrman’s How Jesus Became God.

The most popular post of the day was our recent post on the Coates-Chait debate; runner-up was our April Fool’s joke; followed by my latest post on race and America.

See you in the morning.