by Dish Staff
A reader responds to a previous one:
It amazes me how casually people presume to dictate to others what they can and can’t do with their own bodies, in the privacy of their own homes (or in the privacy of their own phones, as the case may be). “Is your life going to suck if you can’t take nude pics on your telephone?” What the hell kind of question is that? Why exactly “can’t” a person take nude selfies? Because of the inevitability that someone else will break into their phone/laptop/cloud storage account, steal this personal information or images and disseminate them without consent? Do the people asking these questions not hear themselves and recognize they might as well ask women, “Is your life going to suck if you can’t wear a short skirt?”
I was the victim of identify theft last week; somebody got my debit card info and made some fraudulent purchases at Macy’s. My bank, to their credit, immediately alerted me, canceled the card, reversed the charges, etc. At no point in the process did anyone think to ask, “Would your life really suck if you just paid cash for your purchases?” At no point did anyone suggest that if I didn’t want to have money stolen from me, that I shouldn’t purchase anything over the Internet.
Of course, our right to our own money is considered sacrosanct. Women’s right to their own privacy? Their right to control the images they take of their own bodies and they keep private, by any reasonable measure? Not so much …
Why is it so important for everyone to argue about who’s ultimately at fault here? There’s plenty of blame to go around. The person who released these pictures is a terrible human being. If Apple has flaws in iCloud, then shame on them. And anyone taking naked pictures of themselves and sending them across the Internet is creating risk. There are a bunch of parties at fault here. Some are certainly more morally wrong than others, but that doesn’t mean that there are valid lessons to be learned for the rest of them.
If I don’t bother to lock my front door when I leave the house, is there any question that I made a mistake? That doesn’t mean I deserved to be robbed, but I should’ve known better. It doesn’t absolve the guy that wandered in and stole my stuff from his guilt at all, but it’s fair to criticize me as well. I wish we lived in a world where I could leave my doors unlocked, but that’s not the world that exists, and that should be obvious.
These celebrities did not deserve to have their pictures distributed, but they made decisions that made this event possible. If they’ve been paying any attention to the world around them, they’d have understood that there is a huge market for naked celebrity photos, and that being the case, maybe allowing them into “the cloud” wasn’t the best idea.
Is it fair that celebrities have to be extra wary of this sort of thing? Maybe not, but very little of the world is fair, and we have to live our lives accordingly.
Another makes a very similar argument and concludes:
This does circle back to the rape conversation on the Dish. And it pains me to go here, but it neither bad nor victim-blaming for people of either sex to be educated on some steps to take to lower the probability of being assaulted (mainly having to do with very heavy alcohol consumption). It does not mean anyone deserves to be assaulted in any way. And when rape and other terrible assaults occur, our legal system should investigate and prosecute. But even when a rapist is convicted, it doesn’t undo the trauma. It would have been much better not to happen, and every reasonable* effort to reduce the chance of this is smart. (*maybe this is where people differ – what is reasonable and what is overly cautious.)
But can we stop equating some thoughtful prudent advice with victim-blaming? I figured if there is a place where this can be posted and intelligent conversation can ensue, it’s the Dish.