The View From Your Window

Fargo, ND

Fargo, North Dakota, 10.08 am. Our reader writes:

I’ve been meaning to send you a version of this view for awhile now. It’s looking south from the second-floor windows of the studio where I have been a stained glass apprentice for about three years now. (We all check in from work, don’t we?) The building in the foreground is the old Christ Scientist Church, now a recovery worship congregation. Behind that is First United Methodist Fargo.

My husband’s family is from Fargo, which brought us to the area. We lived in Fargo for about two years, but once marriage equality came to Minnesota, we made the move 100 yards across the Red River of the North to Moorhead, MN, where we were legally married at the first possible minute with 17 other same-sex couples in a midnight ceremony at the Clay County Courthouse on August 1st, 2013. Our moms were our witnesses on our marriage certificate.

My husband and I bounced around the country together in our 20s. Big cities. It was fun. But now we’re in our 30s and “small town” life is a little more fulfilling. Fargo-Moorhead has been good to us. The arts community, the faith community, the business world … I don’t think we would have felt so comfortable in this town 10 years ago. I can’t believe how far we’ve come in such a short period of time; gay married folk are now mundane homeowners on the Northern Plains. Unbelievable.

I first started reading your blog daily in 2007, for Obama. I was an undergrad at DePaul University in Chicago when I voted for him the first time for Senate in 2004. I loved him then and I still love him. History will judge him well. Your posts have given Chad and me something to talk about, sometimes argue over, for almost eight years now. I’m really going to miss you. We will miss you. (Plus I grew up Catholic too, and our sentiments regarding “gay culture” are so similar, and GAH!, we are such good friends … tears …)

Nevertheless, I get the decision you made. It makes sense to me. I love your blog, but daily events are SO EXHAUSTING. Especially lately. I’ve taken a few breaks from it all recently myself. You should too.

A Note To Our Readers, Ctd

It’s been a highly emotional and tough week for the Dish team, especially given the outpouring of love from the in-tray. We’re so grateful and not a little moved by your insistence that the Dish somehow go on, post-Sully.

But the truth is: we’ve been grappling with that question now for months, and this is not as sudden a decision as it may appear from the outside. Since last summer, we’ve been thinking through whether a transition to a Sully-free Dish could work, and what it would take to re-launch the Dish as simply an aggregation/curation news and opinion site, who would run it, who would write for it, etc. We’ve talked to potential investors; we’ve discussed how it would work editorially; we’ve gone through the numbers; we’ve assessed exactly how heavy a lift it might be. And we concluded it would be a very, very heavy lift. The tipping point was my health, which made a core decision for me (and us) last month, as our auto-renewals loomed. We’re all only human. At some point, the marathon has to end.

We revisited all of this again in the wake of your emails. You deserved that. But the simple truth is: all three co-owners of the site, me, Patrick Appel and Chris Bodenner, have come to the conclusion that the practical, financial and editorial challenges of continuing on are howler beaglesimply too great for us to bear as we are, let alone without me. We’re a tiny team, already stretched beyond any sane life/work balance, with no financial backer, and a work ethic that might be alternately described as manic or masochistic. I’m not the only one exhausted and drained after years and years of intense, always-on-deadline work – not just editorially, but also these past two years in running a small business. We’re a very tight ship as we are, with a drained crew. The seas ahead would be extremely rough, and the danger of sinking without a captain quite high. We’re incredibly proud of what we’ve achieved, which is why, in some ways, we’d rather end it while it’s still thriving than run the risk of seeing it all slowly fall apart. We owe that to the Dish itself, to ourselves and to you.

I know this is a brutal decision and I can tell you in all candor how deeply painful it has been for us. Each of us has given our all to this adventure; it has dominated our lives for years; it has been a source of enormous joy and satisfaction as well as profound strain and anxiety. We are as addicted to it as you are, and withdrawal will be really tough. But we’ve made the call that there is a time for everything, and that the Dish will and should live on as a pioneering fifteen-year experiment at the dawn of the new media age. We feel we’ve left behind a model of what an online community can truly be, what a site uncontaminated with p.r. can achieve, and how it’s possible for less than ten people to corral a million people a month and 30,000 paying subscribers into a conversation without end.

And yes, the conversation will continue – just not in this form and not in this place. The Dish, after all, is a very new media invention. It’s less an institution than an organism – a living breathing creature that is more than the sum of its parts. It’s you and me and life and the Dish team all living and thinking and writing together in real time through the twists and eddies of history. It’s not a physical object, or an institution. We’ve never had an office. And we’ve tended to it like a living organism, listening to its intimations, letting it take us where it wants us to go, always innovating but also retaining core elements that never change. Once you start dismantling bits of it, or removing parts of its DNA, or reconstituting it without me, you risk an unraveling. The Dish’s legacy deserves better.

As for you and us, we will stay in touch. We have 30,000 email addresses – and we’ll reach out to you as the team goes on to new projects and as I figure out my own future. I know that Friday, our last day of Dishing, will be deeply emotional. But better to end something cleanly and clearly than drag it out.

And for the next few days, let’s celebrate. Let’s remember the highs and lows, the insanity and the wisdom, the humor and the deadly seriousness of what the Dish has created and spawned these past several years. Let’s remember what we created together and be glad. For we have something wonderful to be glad about.

Cheap Gas Won’t Kill The Electric Car

Car Sales

Daniel Gross theorizes that, with regard to cars, “hybrids and electric markets are actually two distinct markets”:

Nobody needs a $60,000 car to get around town. But plenty of people buy BMWs, Audis, and Porsches precisely because they are status symbols. And that’s the thing with all-electric cars. The people who buy them—and especially those who buy Teslas—aren’t doing it to save a few dollars on gasoline. (If they are, they’re making a very bad trade-off.) They’re doing it because they think the idea of an all-electric sports car is cool, or because they like gadgets and new technology, or because they want to support Tesla CEO Elon Musk, the polymathic hyperentrepreneur who has become a folk hero in Silicon Valley, or because they fret about global warming and want to contribute to a solution, or because they want to call attention to their conspicuous virtue. One of the many Tesla owners in the town where I live has a license plate that reads “NOEMISSIONS.” (Thanks for sharing, pal.) By contrast, hybrids, which were once a marker of cool, have become mainstream, even basic. The other day I snapped a photo of something that would have been unthinkable several years ago: a Prius with a Mitt Romney bumper sticker.

Actually, Someone Is Arguing That

Freddie has grown tired of one tactic for shutting down debate:

There are all kinds of arguments in the world — right ones, wrong ones, constructive ones, destructive ones, sincere ones, disingenuous ones, funny ones, serious ones. But at this stage in my life as an arguer, none is as consistently, exhaustingly unhelpful as “no one is arguing that.”

This has become an absolute stock response in my comments section in the last couple of years. I will say “X is a bad idea.” And commenters will spring up to say “Straw man! No one is arguing for X!” This is particularly odd because almost always I’ve pointed to a particular argument for X, with a link. I’ll then say, in the comments, actually here’s argument X, coming from this person and this person and this person. Then, the argument immediately changes: “oh, well, sure, that guy argues for X, but hardly anybody argues for X.” Or, even more often, some version of “nobody important argues for X.” The goal posts shift massively and quickly and yet the tone of condescension endures.

Well, look: ideas are worth rebutting even if they are not popular, there are many unpopular ideas that we take as perpetually worthy of fighting thanks to their former prevalence in history, and frequently the arguments aren’t actually that unpopular as people claim anyway.

Should Christians Say The Pledge Of Allegiance? Ctd

Readers rightly push back on this post:

Putting aside the question of the specific language of the Pledge and whether or not it’s kind of silly to even have one, it seems that the real question raised by Korey and Cupp is whether a Christian can have an allegiance to the U.S. To suggest that they shouldn’t is absurd. Obviously, this country is far from perfect, and the torture activities of the CIA are only the latest in a series of appalling acts by the government over the course of the history of the country.  Nevertheless, this country remains one of the most, if not the most, open, tolerant, free and, yes, democratic, of nations, and it remains probably the most protective of what we consider to be civil liberties.  (Whether that will still be true in 20 years remains to be seen.)

I don’t mean to sound like one of those “America, love it or leave it” types from the ’60s, but if one can’t bring oneself to acknowledge a proprietary interest in the U.S., then one should think about finding another country to set up camp in.

Another also seeks a more perfect union:

When I pledge allegiance to the flag, and to “the republic for which it stands,” I am not saying America is good, or morally sound, or guiltless. I am saluting the parts of the Constitution that allow for change and revision – of itself, and of the country. The premise of the pledge is not that the U.S. is good, or morally sound. The premise is that we can change what’s wrong, and make it less so. The pledge is not acceptance of the ills and evils of our past and present. It is a promise  to exercise our power to change that. It is a promise to keep trying.

Another ties in church loyalty:

We should say the pledge, for the same reason I did not quit the Catholic Church. It’s my church, and my country, regardless of what someone else has done in its name. You don’t quit it; you restore it.

Shady Supplements

Don’t believe the labels:

Many pills and capsules sold as herbal “supplements” contain little more than powdered rice and house plants, according to a report released Monday by the office of New York state attorney general Eric Schneiderman. An investigation found that nearly four of five herbal supplements do not contain the ingredients listed on labels, and many supplements—tested from among leading store-brand products sold at GNC, Target, Walmart, and Walgreens—contain no plant substance of any kind at all. …

None of this is to imply that were these products 100 percent pure and unadulterated, they would be of any benefit to most people. In terms of health benefits, the evidence for talking a powdered-rice supplement is essentially as compelling as any other. The one thing that supplements do offer is a placebo effect, which can be very real and effective. Unfortunate as it is if today’s news deprives anyone of that benefit, better that institutionalized fraud is addressed.

A Reader And Me

Here’s a little blast of Dishness over the years. A reader just emailed me her latest missive in a correspondence between us that goes back to 2008. Here’s the eight-year exchange:

I just started reading your blog a few weeks ago and I have to thank you.  It gives me something more intelligent to do when I’m wasting my employer’s time than looking at captioned cat pictures. I know you get this all the time but even though I don’t always agree with you, I do always appreciate the thoughtfulness and intelligence that you bring to a topic.  There’s not nearly enough of that in the world.

That said, do you ever take a day off from this? Isn’t it exhausting to constantly serve up content to those of us too lazy to find it ourselves?  I know that you had someone filling in for you when you were very ill, but still, it’s the weekend! Go to the park, take a nap, read a book in the bathtub or whatever! The rest of us can fend for ourselves for a while.

I replied:

i’ll rest when this comes to some kind of lull.

Two years later, after I said I’d no longer be blogging Saturday and Sunday (which lasted maybe a couple of weekends):

Finally, two years later and you’re taking my advice. I’m very happy to hear that you’re going to be taking weekends off. Somehow your readers will muddle through. Somehow.

Then four years later, earlier today:

Finally, after 6 long years, you’re taking my advice. I’ll miss the shit out of you, but I love that you’re taking care of yourself finally.

I love you guys.