Girls’ Greatest Risk: Boyfriends, Not Hook-Ups

Sady Doyle provides context for Caitlin Flanagan's case against the hook-up culture:

Hooking up may leave girls unsatisfied and lonely. It may include experiences that are, in Flanagan's words, "frightening, embarrassing, uncomfortable at best, painful at worst." But assuming that these experiences are all consensual—I trust Flanagan wouldn't qualify date rape as a "hook-up," however grim her language may be—we can't know that they are "hurting" girls in any measureable way. Here is what we do know to be hurting girls in a measureable way, however: Their boyfriends.

According to a 2005 survey on teen dating abuse, 13 percent of girls who have been in relationships—girls, that is to say, who have had boyfriends—report being "physically hurt or hit." A startling one in four said that their boyfriends had pressured them to have sex they didn't want. Twenty-six percent reported recurring, and severe, verbal abuse in their relationships. And then, there's this, from a no less august source than the U.S. Department of Justice: "Young women between the ages of 16 and 24 in dating relationships experience the highest rate of domestic violence and sexual assault." The highest. What was that about Boyfriend Stories again?

Access vs Contemplation

Ben Carlson has an interview with Nick Carr:

The danger for the young is never developing the mental facility for contemplative thought, whether deep reading or being able to follow a single argument over a long stretch. I worry that we’re training children to be distracted, to confuse getting access to information with intelligence.There seems to be a redefinition of our idea of intelligence itself that is emerging. The emphasis is on how quickly you can find information, rather than what you do with it, how deeply you think about it, and how you weave it into the knowledge you already have.

Carr rounds up reaction to his new book, including an review by Jonah Lehrer:

While Carr tries to ground his argument in the details of modern neuroscience, his most powerful points have nothing do with our plastic cortex. Instead, “The Shallows” is most successful when Carr sticks to cultural criticism, as he documents the losses that accompany the arrival of new technologies. The rise of the written text led to the decline of oral poetry; the invention of movable type wiped out the market for illuminated manuscripts; the television show obliterated the radio play (if hardly radio itself). Similarly, numerous surveys suggest that the Internet has diminished our interest in reading books. Carr quotes Wallace Stevens’s poem “The House Was Quiet and the World Was Calm,” in which stillness allows the reader to “become a book.” The incessant noise of the Internet, Carr concludes, has turned the difficult text into an obsolete relic.

And a counter argument by Clay Shirky:

The past was not as golden, nor is the present as tawdry, as the pessimists suggest, but the only thing really worth arguing about is the future. It is our misfortune, as a historical generation, to live through the largest expansion in expressive capability in human history, a misfortune because abundance breaks more things than scarcity. We are now witnessing the rapid stress of older institutions accompanied by the slow and fitful development of cultural alternatives. Just as required education was a response to print, using the Internet well will require new cultural institutions as well, not just new technologies.

The War On Whistleblowers

Yglesias looks for a deeper lesson in the Army's arrest of a young intelligence analyst accused of leaking the Wikileaks footage:

An alternative investigation might focus not on who leaked classified video of a U.S. military operations, but on the question of why that sort of video should be classified. Certainly I can see why the Army might have preferred to keep it under wraps—in the eyes of many it reflected poorly on their conduct—but it hardly contained operational military secrets. In general, we expect things undertaken by America’s public servants in America’s name on America’s dime to be matters of public record. The security services have, however, largely managed to leverage the legitimate need for some level of operational secrecy into a fairly broad exemption of themselves from this basic principle.

And this is why whistle-blowers matter. That video, in any case, was very illuminating. By disseminating it,  real debate became possible, and many persuasively added perspectives that helped put it in context. It helped me understand the kind of things that war entails, the random events, and sudden decisions that can lead to legitimate self-defense or, in a second, a war crime. I believe that democracies benefit from such revelations. It's what separates us from authoritarian regimes. These soldiers, after all, are operating in our name. Without divulging real secrets, we have a right to know. Because without knowing, we cannot make the decisions about war and peace that an informed public has to make.

The View From Your Recession

A reader writes:

After reading some very fascinating contributions to "The View From Your Recession" and "The View From A Career Counselor," I've come to the conclusion that, when all is said and done, there are no hard and fast rules whatsoever in seeking employment in today's difficult job market. Some hiring managers will be turned off if you contact them directly; some of them will be annoyed when you do. Some hiring managers want qualifications that match the job description exactly, and will ignore anything on your resume that doesn't; others want a broad range of experience and will send your rez to the bottom of the pile if you don't have it. It's a total crap shoot, and that was one of the most frustrating aspects of my search (which, incidentally, went on for 10 months and only just ended a few weeks ago).

The most frustrating aspect, though, was how easy it seemed for people to ignore me.

I'm a writer/editor by trade and had worked for a major public university for seven years before getting laid off last July; I applied for more than a hundred jobs at universities, corporations, media outlets, government agencies, and even sports franchises. Of all the jobs for which I applied, only half the time did I get any kind of response back. The other half, I got nothing. At all.

At one school, I applied for a job that almost exactly matched what I'd been doing for the past seven years, and got an auto-e-mail the same evening informing me that my application had been rejected because I didn't possess the proper qualifications. I called their HR department the next day to ask why I'd been bounced so quickly, and was told they had some kind of computerized system that searches resumes and cover letters for specific keywords and rejects the ones that don't have them. I added the proper keywords and the woman I talked to said she'd send it back through the system again; I never heard anything after that. A few weeks later, I submitted my revised resume to the same school for a similar-sounding job … and after receiving yet another auto-e-mail within hours of applying, I decided that institution wasn't worth the hassle anymore.

I know that with so many people desperate for work these days, HR departments have got to be inundated with applications, but seriously, is it that difficult to send someone a form e-mail acknowledging receipt of their application and giving them some idea of what's going to happen next (even if it's just "don't call us, we'll call you")? If I've left three voice-mail messages at your office asking about the status of my application for a position it turns out you don't even have the funding to fill, wouldn't it be worth two minutes of your time to fire off an e-mail letting me know the position's not available after all, if only to get me off your back? It's hard enough just to be suddenly unemployed in the first place; when you put yourself out there day after day after day, only to be summarily ignored by hiring managers from coast to coast, you start to wonder if the world would even notice if you one day ceased to exist.

Incidentally, the company where I finally started work last week is a Fortune 130 company that consistently makes it onto that magazine's "Best Places to Work" list year after year; I've got a decent salary, fun co-workers, and great benefits, praise the Lord. I couldn't tell you how I landed the job other than luck — my recruiter in the HR department was the daughter-in-law of a family friend, and I just happened to be interviewed by a couple of hiring managers who were wowed by my specific experience and skill sets. But they were all great people who went out of their way to make me feel like I was being paid attention to and carefully considered.

I wish I had better advice to offer desperate job-seekers other than "get lucky somehow," but … well, sometimes that's what it takes. I do have some advice for hiring managers, though: Treat us like people, dammit. Maybe all you've got on your desk is a CV and an applicant number, but those things might represent a guy who's on the brink of depression after nearly a year of fruitless job-hunting, or a single mom who has to figure out how she's going to feed her two kids and is looking for a reason to hope. I'm not suggesting you hire any of us out of pity, but is not ignoring us too much to ask?

The Beard Is Back

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Well you knew that already:

Today’s take on the full beard “is very playful,” he says. “You grow it with a scent of masculinity, of maturity and of irony to mean ‘I don’t take myself too seriously.’”

“As gay guys can be more adventurous, they have always been at the forefront of new looks,” says Allan Peterkin, a Toronto psychiatrist and co-author of The Bearded Gentleman… Peterkin thinks the recent shift to a more masculine look may be a bit of a backlash to the gay culture of the 1980s, where everyone was so clean-shaven, top to bottom.

“This new facial hair praise goes across cultures, ages, and reaches straights and gays,” says Peterkin. “It’s kind of a universal expression.”

Tips, role models, videos, grooming advice …. you can't beat beards.org.

Keep What You Spill?

Andrew Revkin considers BP's policy of maintaining ownership of the skimmed oil:

That seems outrageous. Even at 10,000 barrels a day times $75 a barrel, that potential revenue is a tiny fraction of the $23 million a day the company says it’s paying for cleanups and other costs. But to my mind, this is irrelevant. Along with all of its other obligations and penalties, perhaps BP should be required — if only for symbolic value — to contribute to the United States Strategic Petroleum Reserve an amount of oil equal to every barrel now being salvaged from the seabed gusher at its Macondo Prospect well.

A Quieter Christianity, Ctd

A reader writes:

Your reader has stumbled accidentally upon a sort of Christianity practiced by most of the people I know who claim to be so; it saddens me that he thinks it's not present in the US. Perhaps if he started actively looking for it, he'd find more people living their faith around here than he expects to.  

I can't back up this assertion with figures and statistic, but is it unreasonable to assume that a more private, personal faith is by its nature less noticeable than a publicly asserted one? Particularly to someone who's turned off of even discussions of Christianity in public forums, where political and social issues are deemed newsworthy by an increasingly conflict-addicted media? Surely, evangelism and controversial political engagement is more media-friendly than the quiet business of getting on with attempts at charity, mercy and love. Good works don't make headlines, and people serious about living like Christians don't spend a lot of time on camera or in front of microphones. He should go track down some more Christians who aren't spending all their time telling people how Christian they are, and see what they're up to.