How Adoption Differs

John Seabrook recently adopted a girl from Haiti. How adoption narrows the parenting divide:

[One] way adoption differs from birth is that the father is much more of an equal partner from the beginning. When a woman spends nine months pregnant, gains weight, gives up drinking, and then has to go through labor, it places the guy behind the eight ball. The mother has already had a nine-month relationship with the child, and you’re just getting started. After the birth, the father feels that he has to atone for all the sacrifices the mother has already made in carrying the child. That shapes the dynamic of early parenthood, and as a guy you feel like you’re playing catch-up. But when you adopt a child, you’re starting from the same place on the moment the child arrives.

Compassion Meets Skepticism

Development expert William Easterly rides the lecture circuit:

I feel kind of like I am on a long personal intellectual journey trying to figure out how to reconcile my compassion for the world’s poor with my painfully honest realization that there is no reliable evidence on exactly what to do to end poverty. Each new public lecture is trying out a solution to the conundrum on a smart audience, and then they educate me some more to take the next step (which will be tried in the next lecture).

I am trying to convince people that rigorous skepticism is a creative force because most of the damage is done by overconfident people who thought they knew the answer when they didn’t.