Ask Andrew Anything: What Fundamental Rights Should Be Subject To Voting?

by Chris Bodenner

A reader responds to yesterday’s video:

Andrew, the video in which you expressed near-speechless amazement at the recent acceleration of the US toward embracing LGBT rights truly struck a chord with me. We’re roughly the same age (I was born in 1960), but I grew up in southwest Virginia, the heart of the Bible belt, a part of the world where being gay was considered the worst fate one could imagine, the most shameful, wretched possibility – worse than being a criminal, worse than anything. My family wasn’t particularly religious, but the messages they gave me from the time I was a child (and they certainly sensed my gayness early on) clearly steered me toward a life of respectability and “normalcy.” I entered a state of deeply ingrained denial, believing and hoping so strongly that there was simply no way possible that I could be a homosexual, that it simply wasn’t an option.

I eventually married a woman, and truly loved her, though in a limited way that ultimately led to frustration and bewilderment for both of us. We remained married for 12 years, until my wife suggested that I go back into therapy. After much difficult, emotional work with a supportive therapist, I was finally able to admit the truth of being gay, first to myself and then to my wife. Our marriage was over as soon as I disclosed my sexuality (and my lies and infidelities). Sadly, we remain distant and have little contact with each other.

So I came out at the age of 43, fearing that it was too late to ever find love with another man, and unsure that a sustained, loving relationship between two men was even possible.

However, I not only met a wonderful man, with whom I’ve shared my life for 8 years now (not married yet, but we’re talking about it), I also finally became politically active, attending protests of “ex-gay” conferences, and lobbying the state legislatures for trans rights. I was astounded and tremendously impressed by the young activists I met, wowed by their absolute conviction (yet so casually expressed) in their right to be fully recognized and their deserving complete civil equality. (I was living in New York during the ’80s, at the height of the Plague and during the rise of ACT UP, but I was severely closeted and scared to death of gay sex.)

While I’m amazed at the changes we see how happening all around us – the court cases that are going all the way to the Supreme Court, one state after another ratifying civil marriage rights for gay couples – I also cant help but worry that a backlash will come. I share your sense of hope, and I’m incredibly encouraged by the confidence and strength of will that I see displayed by the next generation of young LGBT people. But I still remember being slammed into lockers and being called a faggot in junior high (even though I was trying desperately not to appear effeminate … somehow people just knew). I know there are very large, heavily financed organizations composed of people that feel severely threatened by the advances we’ve seen: the FRC, NOM, Focus on the Family, etc. I celebrate right along with you, Andrew, and share your gratitude for how much has changed. But I’m still nervous, and still fearful, I suppose, of the bullies and the smoothly delivered condemnations after all these years. It’s hard to believe that the victories we’ve seen will really “stick” and become fully embedded into our culture, for good.

But most of the time, I do know hope. Because I was reborn when I came out, late though it was, and I learned that even a balding, middle-aged man, who once lied to himself so thoroughly that he had a hard time distinguishing truth from reality, was finally able to accept the truth about himself, and was able to find love. I share your awe in the dazzling, surreal world in which we now find ourselves, a world that was once only imagined but that appears to be coming into being. A world in which who we love really makes very little difference to the world at large, but a tremendous difference to each individual who has the courage to be themselves.

Thanks always, Andrew, for your honesty, and for making the case for marriage from early, early on.

“Do The Time Or Snitch” Ctd

by Chris Bodenner

A reader writes:

I just read the post about low-level snitches getting the book thrown at them when they don’t have enough information to provide the government, and I’m reminded of the story of Ciro Mancuso, the father of Olympic gold medalist alpine skier Julia Mancuso, who created and ran a multi-million dollar drug empire in Nevada from the ’60s to the ’90s. When caught and charged with no less than 49 felonies, he negotiated a sweet deal with the government in which he obtained not only a significantly shortened prison sentence but also immunity from prosecution for his family. Amazingly, he was also allowed to keep over $4.6 million in assets.

It is infuriating to contrast this with the fate of John Horner or others from communities where there is also a strong “anti-snitch” culture. This whole sad state of affairs reminds me of Randy Wagstaff’s story from The Wire. 

Randy is a Baltimore teen tries to get out of school trouble by desperately offering the vice-principal details about a murder he’d heard about. The show depicts Randy subsequently getting picked up by the police (who have their own ulterior motives for scaring the drug kingpin who ordered the murder), then carelessly discarded by said police when they realize Randy doesn’t actually have information useful to them. He’s then ostracized (and worse) by his own community when they figure out that Randy’s been talking. Damned if you do, and damned if you don’t.

What Does A Drug Runner Look Like?

by Chris Bodenner

According to a new report from the Center for Investigative Reporting (CIR), “three out of four people found with drugs by the border agency are U.S. citizens.” But you wouldn’t know that by reading the press releases from the Border Patrol:

Of nearly 2,000 press releases from the Border Patrol and its parent agency, Customs and Border Protection, between 2005 and 2011 that mentioned a drug-trafficking suspect, 38 percent noted a Mexican national had been arrested. U.S. citizens, meanwhile, were mentioned roughly 30 percent of the time, even though they represent a much higher percentage of those busted, according to the analysis.

Robert Beckhusen highlights one reason so many Americans get involved in drug running:

The CIR interviewed one former trafficker who said the cartels seek out U.S. citizens — particularly of middle-age — because they’re less likely to draw suspicion.

Jackie Brown fit that bill nicely.

Will Readers Finally Pay For Content? Ctd

by Chris Bodenner

A reader flags a promising story from across the Pond:

Considering what you’ve done with the Dish in recent months, this is right up your alley: in the Netherlands a new online “newspaper”, De Correspondent, crowd-funded over 1 million euros in a matter of days.

More details:

[Rob Wijnberg] needed 15.000 people to give him €60 a year for something that doesn’t exist yet — he succeeded within 8 days. His idea is called De Correspondent and its goal is to provide news in a different way. While traditional newspapers serve you daily hot news, Wijnberg says De Correspondent will be a new quality online “newspaper” which could be described as “slow journalism”. They’ll cover daily news and mix it with long-form journalism, providing in-depth analysis of news on a custom built platform.

On a much smaller scale and back on the homefront, a Tinypass-supported site called Bklynr recently met its own presubscription goal of $10K and is launching its first issue tomorrow. Every two weeks it will publish three long-form pieces about Brooklyn, for $20 a year (or $2 month). The broader thread on paid content is here. How it relates to the Dish model is here.

Faces Of The Day

by Chris Bodenner

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Members of the gay community attend the Uruguay Senate’s discussion of a marriage equality bill in Montevideo on April 2, 2013. By Miguel Rojo/AFP/Getty Images. The day ended with good news:

The Uruguay Senate passed marriage equality legislation Tuesday, a sure sign that it will become the fourth nation in Latin America to establish marriage equality in some sense, as President José Mujica has said he intends to sign the bill into law. … According to Freedom to Marry, Uruguay will join 11 other countries with marriage equality (The Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, and Denmark), in addition to three others (Brazil, Mexico, and the United States) where marriage is legal or recognized in designated regions.

Why Take His Name? Ctd

by Chris Bodenner

A reader writes:

As a woman in a long-term relationship with another woman in a state where gay marriage is constitutionally banned, and having just had a child, I am reading the thread about women changing their names with great interest. It’s not that the topic is new to me; I’ve had the discussion with many of my straight female friends. But I haven’t seen the experience of same-sex couples reflected your reader’s comments.

For two women (or men, I imagine) who would like to get married and/or start a family, this discussion takes place on a different plane. My partner and I can’t get married, but one of us could change her name. In many states, doing so would require going to court, and in some of those states, a judge can refuse the name change just because he doesn’t agree with the same-sex relationship. For many same-sex couples, going through the stress, financial costs, and potential heartache of getting a name change is an important aspect in declaring their relationship to the public so that they seem “legit.” So this is yet another arena where DOMA and other laws regulating same-sex marriage affect those couples in a way that most straight couples don’t even think about.

My partner and I have retained our respective “maiden” names, but when my son was born three months ago we gave him a hyphenated last name. Admittedly, it isn’t a very elegant name and it is a mouthful, but it was important to us that he be official “ours,” even though right now my partner has no legal ties to him, since I am the birth mother. I’ve read (though not confirmed myself) that in many states, law dictates the last name that is put on the birth certificate, and same-sex parents would not have that option.

The View From Your Window Contest: Winner #147

by Chris Bodenner

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A reader writes:

The leafless trees and an evergreen in the background made me think of a northern climate, but since my guesses are rarely even in the correct hemisphere, I’m going to go out on a limb:  The orange tree, yellow house, and white-washed garden walls point to Athens, Greece.  The red-tile roofs visible in the photo make me think its in the Old Town area of Athens below the Acropolis.

Another reader:

This is my first time guessing a VFYW.  I am not using any investigative tools for this guess; I just have a hunch. The orange tree reminds me of the kind I used to see and pick oranges from walking through Damascus, but the roof shingles on the yellow building and lack of satellite dishes tells me this can’t be an Arab country. However, it does have a Mediterranean feel, just emerging out of winter.  Letters on the building could be Greek? It’s be in the news lately. But let’s go with Cyprus. To be more specific: Limassol, Cyprus.

Another:

The first step was to identify the logo in the lower-right corner. It’s ProCredit, and a quick search online reveals that they only operate in Latin America, Africa, and Eastern Europe. You’d think after cross-referencing the specific countries where they operate with orange-producing countries you could cross off Eastern Europe and Africa, but that’s not quite true. Since ProCredit’s website doesn’t offer an easy way to display all of their locations in any given country, I’m going to stop here and just guess Guadalajara, Mexico, since Mexico is the #1 orange producing country among countries where ProCredit operates.

Another:

Through a combination of Wikipedia and luck, I identified that building on the right as a ProCredit bank within a ten minutes. But it’s 60 degrees and sunny in New York today, so I’m not going to spend much of it indoors trudging through Google Maps. Time for educated guessing:

Given the week’s news, I suspected Cyprus, but ProCredit lists no branches there. The oranges made me think Mediterranean, where it has branches in Albania and many of the former Yugoslav Republic countries. Then again, Cyprus involves Russia, and Georgia is in the Russian sphere, grows wonderful citrus, and has ProCredit banks. So now I’m leaning Georgia. But hang on — the people who live where the picture was taken are clearly concerned with heavy rain: The drainpipes and gutters are prominent and well-tended. So, a tropical country? I’ll say Nicaragua, because Dish-heads seem to travel off the beaten path, although ProCredit also operates in El Salvador, Mexico, Honduras, and Colombia and I think it could just as easily be one of those.

Now I’m going out for some sun.

Another:

I’m going to go with Italy, and I’m going to go with a post-WWII neighborhood of Florence since the orange tree was a symbol of the Medici.

Another:

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The picture this week was pretty difficult to due to the lack of coverage in Serbia of Google Street View, but thankfully the photo has a clear view of a Pro Credit Bank branch, and apparently they are pretty common throughout Serbia.  The photo also offers other clues such as the “aesthetics be damned, we are putting a Mitsubishi a/c unit in this place, and are going to plop the brilliant white condenser outside the window”, a common practice throughout the city of Vranja, where the citizens, like the rest of the country, prefer to grow apricots  on any available area of their back yard to help block out these eyesores.

I doubt I have much of a chance this week, as I am sure somebody’s ex-girlfriend’s cousin happens to be banker’s associate for Pro Credit Bank in Vranja, and has already sent them exact coordinates of the location to send in to The Dish and claim the prize. Nevertheless, if I win, I promise to send in my subscription.

Don’t let a loss stop you! Another reader:

Well, I started in Serbia and ended up in Macedonia. I was able to identify ProCredit Bank on the corner and I figured orange trees grow far enough south in Macedonia that it just might be the place. That’s as far as I can get without some decent software so this is where I have to stop. Prilep, Macedonia:

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Another Eastern European country:

I recognized ProCredit bank instantly from my time spent in Moldova doing development work. Problem is, it’s a huge bank, and branches could be anywhere in the developing world. The combination of the fir tree in the back and the unique roof shingles narrow this location down to Eastern Europe (no major Asian countries have ProCredit banks, and those shingles are only found in a handful of countries outside of Asia). It looks like Romanian graffiti on the top of the white brick building, so we could be in Romania or Moldova (Moldovan is essentially Romanian). I’ll limit my Google Maps search to what I know: Moldova.

It doesn’t look like any of the major branches in Moldova (many of which are located in more urban housing than this). From the satellite, I’m guessing it’s possibly this branch: Ştefan cel Mare şi Sfânt 33, Soroca, Moldova.

Yet another:

You sent me on my first ever VFYW witch hunt, searching for ProCredit banks in Kosovo.  I could probably spend several more hours trying to pinpoint the locations, but I’m not sure I have the time or the energy (although it is kind of fun to see all the streets named after American politicians, like Eliot L. Engel St in Peja!).

Why my sudden VFYW participation?

A couple years ago, you had a picture of Cartagena, Colombia. I swore it looked familiar as I was planning a trip there for my friend’s wedding.  Of course I thought my hunch would have been thousands of miles off.  (During my trip, I actually took a picture of the window it was taken from). Then, a few months later, you had an entry from Mozambique.  This failure to go with my gut cut much deeper.  Not only was my friend the one who had submitted the picture, but I was the one who had advised him to submit something while he was working overseas.  After not entering my guesses those two times, I vowed to pursue any future leads.

Now, here I am with no confidence whatsoever in my guess fully aware that some other Dishhead will have pinpointed the exact home from which the picture was taken.  It kind of looks like it could have been taken from Haxhi Zeka, in Prizren Kosovo, but I really have no idea.

More coincidences from our contest here and here. Another Kosovo guesser:

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Another gets the right country:

I noticed the graffiti on the apartment wall that says “Para Laci”. This appears to be a reference perhaps to the European football team from Laç, Albania. Laç is near an ancient church that is a destination of pilgrimage dedicated to St. Anthony of Padua. There is a dearth of photos and map details of the town. I can’t say for sure the photo is not from somewhere else such as Tirana, but I am going with Laç.

Another gets closer:

Going on the Laçi graffiti, I’m guessing it’s in Albania. There are two ProCredit Bank locations that Google Maps finds there, and one is next to the Hotel Lisus in Lezhe. So perhaps it’s a first or second story hotel window facing north.

Another nails the right city:

What a frustrating contest this week!  The more of these I do, I notice how we VFYWers have assembled a collective toolbox, and in this regard narrowing down to the country was mostly an beaact of standing on the shoulders of giants.  Those window units point me to eastern Europe and the geographically limiting orange tree pushes me south.  I figured out the commercial bank sign and went to its website to learn the scope of its worldwide footprint.  Grafitti confirms the usage of the Latin alphabet.  Google “Para Laci”, and the wisdow of crowds points you to … Albania, via links about fooball clubs and rappers, amongst others.  Less than an hour to confirm the country, and with the requisite shot of luck we have the city of Tirana, Albania inside another thirty minutes.

From there the toolbox disintegrates.  We look at every storefront photo of a ProCredit Bank, but none quite fit right.  Albania’s capital has not yet succumbed to the intrusiveness of Street View.  Aerial shots are as inscrutable as I wish my own home were.  But we’ve found that tallish brick building in a photo, we know we have.  But it’s across the street from a different ProCredit branch.  We think perhaps there’s another branch, or possibly an abandoned one across the street, but we can’t get behind the brick building to confirm.  After nailing the neighborhood in 1.5 hours, we spend 3 more trying to find the window.

Then despair – a mile down the road, another similar brick building, adjacent to another ProCredit branch.  It all crumbles.  I still believe in Tirana, but I have no confidence in my specifics.

Another Tirana guesser:

A lot of the aerial views of Albanian towns show red-tiled roofs like the one in the photo. And when you go on ProCredit’s Albanian website – whose webmaster is probably wondering why they’ve been getting so many hits this past weekend – you see a lovely picture of this smiling man in a blue shirt:

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This is exactly the same image that you see hanging in the window of the ProCredit bank in the VFYW.

A group effort:

So here’s how my weekend went: I had all these plans to catch up on homework for my master’s program. Then the weekly VFYW contest started on Saturday, and my entire afternoon and night were completely shot. Here’s what I did: my girlfriend, a mutual friend, and I all scoured the photo for any evidence. I was the first to realize that the bank was a ProCredit Bank (I googled “ProC” and saw what came up in the AutoComplete box). Then we went to the bank’s web site and started eliminating countries. My girlfriend noticed that the guy on the advertisement on the window of the bank was the same guy that appeared on ProCredit Albania’s web site, so we had a country match.

Since that time, we spent hours and hours on Google Maps and Street View (turns out, satellite imagery of Albania is not quite what it is in, say, New York). We especially focused on Lac, since graffiti on the building on upper left says “para laçi.” Anyway, the point to all this is: we still don’t know which branch it is. Damn ProCredit and its all-too-convenient branches.

So I’m guessing Tirana. Because it seems like the kind of place that might have both a ProCredit Bank branch AND a backyard orange tree. So there.

Another nails the right building:

This week’s “View From Your Window” is located in Tirana, Albania. Of this I am 100% positive. I am also about 99.5% sure that this picture has been taken from the City Hotel Tirana on Rruga Ismail Qemali. If I had to be more specific, I’d say it was taken from the second floor window next to the “E L” in “hotel” on the southern side of the building, facing the alley.

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In the event of multiple correct guesses (as is likely; I’m guessing 50-60 correct hotel-level guesses), this is my fifth correct guess. Previous correct guesses include Queenstown, New Zealand; Sausalito, California; Anchorage, Alaska and Kagoshima, Japan.

The number of correct hotel guessers was actually ten (all of whom will now be on the “Correct Guessers” list, which will give them an edge in future contests). But only one of them has guessed more prior views than the above reader without yet winning.  That reader’s entry:

That persimmon tree initially had me thinking Asia. But the sign for ProCredit Bank – a surprisingly large network of microloan and retail banking establishments through Eastern Europe, Latin America, and Africa – quickly redirected me toward SE Europe.

Let this be said: While there may be more Rodeway Inns and local police stations in North America than ProCredit branches in the Balkans, there are still plenty of the latter. What’s more, they’re represented pretty spottily in Google Maps. Most of Serbia’s and Kosovo’s show up in map view, for instance, but you won’t find any in, say, Bosnia-Herzegovina that way.

I had a good feeling about Albania (Wikipedia singles the country out as a regional leader in persimmon cultivation, for whatever that’s worth), but even on ProCredit’s Albanian website, a lot of the branches had no photos available. Google apparently has no Albanian Street View database, and its grasp of exact addresses there is a little shaky. Thank goodness some kind folks took photos in the vicinity of one of the several Tirana branches, this one on Ismail Qemali St.:

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The colored outlines correspond to the same on the original VFYW and the Google map view:

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The first floor seems the most likely, given the position of the stone wall (light blue) and gate (yellow). And as this image shows, there’s a ventilation unit (in pink!) by the first floor window, southwest corner, matching the one in the original image:

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From the photo’s owner:

On a recent trip to Albania for work, I stayed an extra few days to check out Tirana and the surrounding areas. I stayed at a small hotel on a side street that was recommended by a friend called City Hotel on Rruga Ismail Qemali, Nr 8/1. It was taken from the first floor, room #2. I quite liked the orange tree in the yard outside my window and thought I’d share it.

Congrats to that colorful reader on the tough win. This was truly one of the most impressive contests yet. I had picked what I thought would be a really tough photo because I knew I would be especially busy this week with Andrew on vacation and I wanted to cut down on the submissions. Silly me: there were close to 150 entries, half of which were of Albania. Readers still continue to amaze me when it comes to this contest, after nearly three years of running it. As one reader puts it:

The VFYW contest is creepy. Seriously.  How can these people – from just ONE random photograph – pinpoint the EXACT location down to the apartment unit it was taken from?!  It’s creepy.

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Ask Andrew Anything: Processing The Progress On Marriage

by Chris Bodenner

Andrew talks more about his recent trip to West Point here. His analysis of the SCOTUS hearings here and here, and his reaction to Rob Portman’s conversion here. By the way, the reader reaction to the AA reboot has been positive so far:

I just wanted to say that I really liked the new set up and look for the Ask Anything series. I didn’t really like the surreal filter that was used before and often found it more distracting than helpful when listening to the videos. I just watched the AAA on Pope Francis and Ratzinger. The clarity and HD quality used in that video is, in my opinion, preferable to what was set up before. Keep up the great work!

Another:

I really like the un-distorted visuals, larger format, and understated background. And I really really really like that you’ve gotten rid of that horrible typing sound when printing out the questions. A brief (and blessedly silent) title at the beginning works perfectly.

A special thanks to Chas for assembling the Dish mobile studio, shooting the footage, and processing the videos. The Ask Anything series is also available on YouTube.